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A Word to the Wise . . or to the Stupid!

This afternoon has been a horrible afternoon!  In the grand scheme of things, it’s not that big but I feel I’ve been treated badly and all afternoon, I’ve waffled between wanting to cry and wanting to tell someone off . . badly.  I did neither but my dear internet friend has been my crutch all afternoon.  I don’t often need a crutch but til the wine is done chilling, thank you Judy.

Now . . my advice to those who seriously need to take their own advice and Grow Up!  Once upon a time I had a computer that had issues.  It was under warranty and I was getting the run around.  I posted about it on the blog and I got a rather nasty comment on the blog and for those who don’t know . . every comment left comes with  your IP address attached.  That is seen by no  one but me and I normally pay no attention to it.  But the comment about the computer was so ugly that I traced the IP address and it went right back to the office company that I was dealing with . . to their corporate offices.  Vince, being familiar with how corporate offices work, called the vice president of the company . . and we’re talking about a national company!  Not only did I get an extreme apology, I got a new computer.

Nothing is anonymous on the internet.  Nothing!

So dear family member (not my family but of the person I’m dealing with) who lives in or near Provo, Utah, I have your IP address and your ugly blog comments will not appear on the blog, but your comments have been forwarded to the complaint department with your IP address.  Your actions are not making an already ugly situation any better.

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  3. You dealt with this really well. I hate things like this. They nearly drove one of my favorite long arm quilters off the internet with their ugliness a few months ago. It’s time for trolls to lose their anonymity and learn to act with some grace and gentility on the internet.

  7. Way to go, Judy! The anonymity of the Internet lets some people feel they say anything they want without risk of being found out. And most of us let it go at that. It’s good to know someone (you) have taken a stand and are fighting back. People like that will continue their bad manners and behavior if they aren’t called out on it.

  8. obviously I have no clue what’s going on, and I’m even more clueless about why someone would troll YOU. but this girl loves you, your chickens, and Vince. you are an amazing and intelligent person, Judy. hang in there and help yourself to a second glass (or bottle!) of wine tonight! love ya!

  9. Glad to hear you are able to follow up. Too often people say hurtful things on the internet and think they are anonymous. I’m glad you’re proving otherwise.

  11. You go girl! I love it when a person…especially a woman….grows a pair and stands up for herself. Everyone has a right to their own opinions…even if they are wrong…but no one should be hurtful about it.

  13. Whatever it’s about, you shouldn’t be trolled! Your blog is great, and Icheck every day. I love hearing about your life in Texas. Go get ’em, Judy!

  14. Absolutely fascinated that there is a way to trace such stuff back to the source and that you are using it. Trolling is nothing but bullying with a “nicer” name. Bullies need to be called out, every time.

    Congratulations, Judy. Thanks for taking a stand.

  15. Hang in there, Judy. It’s a shame that some people feel the need to say or do hateful things. Just remember that lots of us love your blog – I hope that helps outweigh the few negative people out there.

  16. Why do some people have to ruin it for all the rest of us. We all love Judy and Co. and look forward to all the chicken, Vince and cooking stories. Oops, forgot, this is a quilting blog. Quilting, too. You go girl!!

  17. Good on you Judy for telling it like it is. Hope the ‘troll’ is dealt with properly.
    I just do not understand where good manners have gone, the old adage,” If you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all” really needs to be the mantra for all blog commenters I think. Tis so easy to tap a few hurtful words and then click send and poof its all over the world in a flash.
    Cheers, and Hugs.

    Marie

  18. It is really so sad that someone has nothing better in their life than to say mean things to a kind and very giving person such as yourself. Hold your head high Judy, and do NOT shed a tear over someone’s ignorance in not realizing that by saying ugly things, it only makes that person ugly. That old saying keeps coming to mind, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!” 🙂

  20. I’m just dumbfounded when I read that things like this have happened. I sometimes, ok frequently, read comments that go along with say a news article, and am as equally dumbfounded there with the harsh, snarky, snipey comments so-called intelligent and reasonable people leave. And I admit, so many of them, I’m tempted to blast right back at, but then, I realize it just isn’t worth my time and I’d be stooping to the same level I see them as at at that moment. It is amazing how folks will reveal the ugliness in their hearts when they think no one knows who they are. There’s an acronym I like, it’s THINK and it stands for: is it True? is it Helpful? is it Inspiring? is it Necessary? is it Kind? A good reminder to always choose my own words carefully.

    • I love that acronym. I need to look that up so I can share with my girls, something we all need to remember! 🙂

  21. Sending hugs your way. Some people I will never understand, so sad. But please know that I have become a dedicated follower for a while now and I love reading everything you post. I am a young wife and mother, I try to dabble in sewing and quilting when there is time, we love our chickens, and growing fresh food in our garden. I have learned so much from your postings, and find you as a source of inspiration. Enjoy your wine, and don’t forget there are still plenty of us out here who love ya. 🙂

  22. Good for you Judy. I can’t think of a thing you mentioned in your blog to make someone go off the deep end like that. I know that nothing is private today. I think everyone should learn enough about computers, the internet etc. to be able to do just what you did.

    The sad thing is my two favorite bloggers are having problems. It just breaks my heart.

    Hang in the Judy. I hope you get to be friends with the cows, they seem to not be afaid of you at all.

  23. Oh Judy, I’m so sorry you are going through this. I just don’t understand some people. Your blog is great and I love reading it and sharing your stories with my DH. I’m glad you are able to stand up and tell it like it is. These type of people need to realize that they are showing their ignorance and ugliness by being hurtful. Keep your chin up and realize that many of us love you.

  24. I’m sorry that someone was a jerk to you.(( hug)) Go sit out on the porch, drink a glass of wine and enjoy your beautiful surroundings.

  25. Whatever happened to manners in this world. And what about “Do Unto Others”. So sorry you’re having to deal with this. I hope you can relax tonite and enjoy your wine. Please know that you have tons of support here whatever you do. I love your blog and all that you so generously share. Thank you, Judy!

  26. .I’m so sorry that you have had a very bad day.
    Here’s hoping tomorrow is alot better.
    Hopefully you are enjoying your new front porch with a glass of wine and a beautiful sunset. ( and maybe a few cows off in the distance)

  27. I just want agree with all the other posts. I don’t know why people have to be snarky and nasty in their comments. I love your blog and read it every day. Keepmyour head up and know that you have a ton of loyal followers who support you in every way.

  29. So sorry you’ve been having a rough day. Truly, NOTHING is anonymous on the Internet and people should have the smarts to realize that. Of course, if they had smarts they wouldn’t post nasty comments on someone else’s blog. Hope tomorrow is a better day.

  31. We are behind you 100 per cent, just know companies out there, we stand behind Judy!

  32. I am SO sorry that you are being attacked. I love following your blog every day. I don’t understand why someone would be nasty!

    Please keep up the good work!! If we could send emails in support — just let me know where to send them!

    Cindy

  33. A long time ago, a very wise English teacher told us to never put on paper words that you don’t want to be there for posterity. (Think diaries from royals in the 1600-1700’s. They have been published, and were meant to be private writings.) This was a time when “slam books” were popular. I think that ours was the only school in the US where the slam books contained things like ” She is the sweetest person”, when she wasn’t. LOL Many think that the internet provides anonymity, but delete isn’t final. Glad that you are able to strike a blow for everyone who is being bullied by a corporation.

  34. I think that you need some of the lovely dark purple iris that came from my grandmother’s garden. Send me your postal address and I will send you a box!

    Cindy

  37. Yup – ignore the nasty trolls.

    Like what others have said, I can’t understand what you have written recently to set off any attacks, but then again, those types of people do not need good reasons for their behavior.

    Have another glass of wine tonight, breathe in the wonderful spring air, pet the chicks and relax. We all love ya!

  39. On to something else…. Good for you. Eat some of the nice fruit that came in the box and move on to something new….like knitting! But I like hearing about the quilting best. Or the cooking. That way I don’t have to do so much at home. Chick pictures today?

  40. Judy–
    I’m so sorry someone tried to use the anonymity of the internet to get nasty–if they don’t like what you blog about, they should not visit your blog! Myself, I visit every day–love being a part of your “family!”

  41. The internet is forever, which some people forget. Good manners are also forever, which some people have never learned. You have handled this situation with great good grace. And your adventures show that your momma taught you good manners.

  43. Thank you for taking a stand! Every morning I check your blog to get the chicken report (and the quilting report!). Every evening before I leave work I check one more time to see if Vince has finished the coop or the cows have gotten into the herbs. If someone has nothing more in their life than to be ugly to someone else, then shame on them!

  44. Good for you. People, corporations, etc. need to be held more accountable for their actions or lack of. Personally, your blog gives me a lift everytime I read it. Plus the added benefit of you trying out the yarns before I buy them!

  45. I share all the good wishes for you.
    Sometimes the urge to get revenge is there, but we restrain because we then become as bad as the offender.
    So just remember Judy that your friends are with you and love your postings. Other peoples opinion is not needed

  46. Just can’t understand why anyone would be mean to you. You are one of the nicest people I have “met” in the blog world. People who make those bad comments are just jealous of you and trying to get you upset. Don’t give them the power. Enjoy your day today.

  47. Day late here but good on you, Judy. Don’t you worry,,,,we’ve all got your back here at Patchwork Times!!!

  49. YEAH!!! for you on all points. BTW, if the wine isn’t chilled in time put it in the freezer for a quick chill.

  50. Judy, People have a tendency to try to make other people as miserable as they are. Without going into a long tale I am having a very rough time in my life right now and I turn to your blog to help raise my spirits. If I am away from my computer when I get home, the first thing I do is turn it on to get to your blog. Know right now, even without knowing me, you are my life saver. THANK YOU!

  52. I am also going through a challenging time and look forward to your daily blogs. You have been an inspiration more than once. I am glad you and Vince have found your haven/heaven on earth. God Bless

  54. I’m late in reading this and have no clue what someone had to complain about. I read your blog daily after work (and sometimes later before bed) and love it! I laugh, smile, get inspired, and just plain feel good reading what you write. Keep it up!

  55. I usually don’t ever comment – just lurk and watch what you sew, your dealings with the cows and everything else that just makes for a normal day. Your funny and extremely talented it seems in everything that you do. This post however brought a chuckle to me. Kudos to finally letting the people who have nothing nice to say a jolt of reality. Hopefully he/she is eating their words right now – you got the last laugh!

  57. I am sad that some “grown ups” haven’t learned not to be bullies. stand firm you are loved and respected for who you are

  58. I agree with all who’ve expressed sadness about “adults” who don’t act like adults, adult bullying, etc… It’s pretty pathetic!

    I’m glad you stood up for yourself by contacting the higher-ups in the company, etc… It sounds like whatever this employee did was completely inappropriate!

    I have always been thrilled with your blog posts! You are SO inspiring, and your blog posts are so positive! If you DO have a complaint/gripe, you should feel free to post about it – it’s YOUR blog for goodness sake!!!

    I love your blog. Keep posting! And keep your chin up – 99% of us love you dearly and support you 150%!

    {{{{{hugs}}}}}

  59. I have no idea what happened, but good for you for taking care of this troll! Your blog is one i look forward to reading most every single day. In fact, I check in often during the day to see what you’re up to. This is just a sick, jealous person hiding behind what they “think” is anonymity!! What goes around comes around.

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