I LOVE that variegated red floss, which is Niggling Details. Right or wrong, I’ve justified in my head/budget that the cost of her silks vs. the cost of overdyed floss vs. the joy I get from stitching with her beautiful silks is worth it for me. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll use DMC and in the end, most of the time cannot tell in a finished project which floss was used unless I really scrutinize the piece. These gorgeous silks on bobbins all lined up in a bobbin box make me happy.
There’s been a bit of a kerfuffle about whether Vikki Clayton should be selling her conversion of silks when another shop is selling an “exclusive” kit. I’m not arguing. I don’t even care who’s wrong and who’s right but I do have an opinion. Of course I do! The “exclusive” in my mind is the chart. No one else is selling that. DMC or another brand of silk floss, which I would not have bought, were offered but were not required to be purchased. My friend, Pat, sent me a link to the chart and I had not seen it and while it is gorgeous, it looks way more detailed than what I normally stitch so I said “I’ll pass”. Then I saw Vikki Clayton’s silks. She simply shared on her Facebook page that she had a conversion. I went and looked and they are so pretty, I was hooked and ordered the chart. That’s a sale that would not have been made had it not been for seeing Vikki’s silks.
Now . . there’s a discussion about whether it’s “moral” for Vikki to create and sell a conversion while the ongoing “exclusive” is being offered. In the comments, several mentioned that an “exclusive” basically means some or something is excluded and in this world where “inclusive” seems to be such a big deal, and I agree that it should be . . why is there even a need for “exclusive” charts/kits”? Many in the discussion have agreed that they no longer buy exclusives for that reason.
This entire thing has changed my way of thinking about shops, designers, haves, have nots. I’m not going to change the word but I can change where I shop and who I shop with.
And while I’m on this rant (of sorts), I’ve almost totally stopped watching floss tubes because (1) I want to buy everything I see but (2) I’m so tired of the ones who used to be my favorite being given free stuff that they then push as the best thing since sliced bread. Many of the floss tubes I used to love seem like nothing more than 1 to 1.5 hour commercials these days. Show me what YOU bought! Show me what YOU stitched or what you want to stitch or what ideas you came up with while stitching. Last night I noticed that one of my very favorite flosstubers had posted a new video. Usually I would drop everything and watch it but last night .. I just wasn’t in the mood and turned it off. I think I’ve lost interest in flosstube and I hear my credit card sighing in relief and saying “thank you”. Also, I am done with exclusives. Don’t care how gorgeous they are . . I have gorgeous charts that I am not going to live long enough to stitch so I am off that “exclusive” band wagon. And, I feel very good about that decision.
Anyway, I started out writing this blog post, with all this controversy fresh on my mind and as I typed the name of this chart, Be Kind to One Another, it thought about kindness and greed and greed can take over and an otherwise kind person (NOT talking about this incident or anyone in particular – totally thinking about the name of the chart) can become or seem unkind. Then I typed the name of the floss “Niggling Details” and I thought about how one person’s view/opinion of an incident can be shared and everyone will agree with that opinion, then the other side shares their version of how the incident happened and now there are two sides to a story . . those “niggling details”. 🙂
It all made me smile in the midst of feeling sad . . sad for all the parties involved in this kerfuffle, sad for our world and the way things are, sad for those who would love to pay $36 for a gorgeous chart and ANY floss to be able to stitch it but are struggling to put food on the table. The world needs a lot more kindness . . let it begin with me.