I had mentioned that Addie was coming here, then she was going to a slumber party, and now she’s coming here. The story strikes me as a bit funny.
When Addie was here probably a month ago, she told me that there would be one weekend she couldn’t come to my house because her best friend was having a slumber party for her birthday. I asked when and she said “after Valentine’s Day”. That was the end of that discussion.
Then last week, Nicole called and said Addie wanted to come here for the weekend but that was our first week in the basement and, at that point, we couldn’t even walk on the wood floors so I talked to Addie and told her it would be much better if she could come this weekend. She said ok.
Then, Nicole called back Monday evening and said “This is the weekend for the slumber party.” Nicole went on to tell me that the “invitation” was a handwritten note from the little girl so Nicole wanted to talk to the mom about all this to make sure this wasn’t something the girls had concocted and make sure the knew about it.
Nicole wrote a note, stuck it in Addie’s backpack and told Addie . . I’ve written a note for the girl’s mom to call me so we can discuss this. If she doesn’t call, you’re not going! Monday evening she didn’t call so Tuesday morning, Nicole reminded Addie . . you’re not going if I don’t talk to the mom. Again, no call. They’ve had no school yesterday and today because of the weather and . . no phone call.
I’m thinking . . if the little girl is having a party and wants Addie to come, she would have made sure to give the mom the note. If the little girl and Addie came up with the idea, maybe she didn’t give the mom the note. Whatever the explanation, Addie is coming here this weekend.
I told Chad . . you need to make sure you know a bit about anyone before you let Addie go spend the night at someone’s house. In MO, you can run anyone’s name through an online database and see any criminal charges, lawsuits, traffic tickets. I told Chad .. you need to do that. I also told him I probably still have the list of questions I had that I asked before he spent the night at anyone’s home . . Smoke alarms? Fresh batteries, Carbon monoxide alarms? Guns locked up? Kids left alone?
He reminded me that he never spent the night anywhere because he was too embarrassed by his overprotective mother’s questions. I told him “Fine. I bet you end up doing the same thing when it comes time for Addie to spend the night somewhere!” He said “maybe” and laughed.
You cannot be too careful about what kind of environment your kids may wander into but you can do your best to protect them while you can. I would never have been offended if a parent had asked me if we had working smoke alarms and if our guns were in a safe. Chad did have friends who spent the night and, surprisingly, no one ever asked those questions.