I’m going to say that I probably don’t make friends easily. I like to think it’s because we’ve moved enough that I’ve always left friends behind and when you only know someone for a few years and then move away, it isn’t always that devoted friendship that stays through the years. Everywhere we’ve lived, I’ve had at least one person that I’m sure would have been a BFF if we had stayed near each other. I’m also a loner and it seems like I was always busy at home. I have always been there for Vince and Chad. Lunch for Vince; pick Chad up after school. My days kinda belonged to the family and doing things for them and by the time I got Chad to school, lunch ready for 11:00 and picked Chad up at 3, there was never much time for other things.
Many times I’ve mentioned my friend who has been my friend since first grade. We have spent countless hours on the phone through the years. She’s a night owl so we’ve had almost daily late night conversations. Our house in Texas was so small that several times, I’d be in the family room talking to her and Vince would be in bed and I’d wake him up laughing. He never thought it was funny, even on the rare times I tried to explain what was so funny. If I went in the extra bathroom or bedrooms and closed the door, the internet didn’t work and I was using wifi for the phone so that never worked.
The other night she and I were talking about how far back kids can actually remember things. She said her husband had said he remembered things from when he was 2. I said “I don’t even remember kindergarten!” She laughed and said “That’s because we didn’t have kindergarten back then!” Kindergarten is the first year of school and that’s accepted and expected these days but that didn’t start til I was way past that age but it was funny. Someone who hasn’t been my friend forever would probably have let it go but she pointed it out and we had a good laugh. We talk about really important things like that and decided that our earliest “memories” aren’t really memories of the event but memories of someone telling us the stories. I really don’t know what I actually remember vs. what I’ve been told about early events in my life.
But the point of this story – her dad is really sick and the end is near. Her son and daughter-in-law have been providing excellent care for him these last few days but they have to leave on Sunday for a trip so my friend is going to have to stay with him, though sadly, there’s a good chance he won’t still be here by then. She was saying she hates to be there by herself and her son said “Call a friend to come stay with you!” She said “The only friend I have who would actually do that is Judy and she’s all the way in Missouri!”
What a nice thing to say! She feels like I’m that kind of friend. I told her . . if the weather here was such that I could actually leave and get there safely and not have to worry about leaving this house empty with this frigid weather, I would leave Saturday and go there but I just can’t and she understands why and . . she didn’t ask because she knows the weather in this area is pretty critical right now.
It made me feel good to feel that she feels like I’m that kind of friend . . even if I can be there when she needs me.