When Addie has been with me a few days and she goes home, my heart hurts when I walk into the empty house. I have so much fun with her and miss her the instant she’s gone.
When I came back last night from taking her to Nicole, the house was too quiet! Rita isn’t here and it was just me and I had to have a little talk with myself to keep from being sad. I am so thankful to be closer to Addie and thankful for the time we do get to spend together so I need to remember that time, and not that empty feeling when I first walk in the house after she’s been here a few days.
Just when I’m not feeling so sad about her being gone, I come across things that make me want to grab her and hug her.
She loves quarters (to put in vending machines) so I handed her two quarters that were in the washer. She stuck them in some kind of a plastic lid and I told her she was going to forget them but she assured me she would not . . she did.
She got her doll furniture arranged just the way she wanted it. I walked into her room to put clean clothes away and that corner took me by surprise.
We had fun together. She taught me how to play Clue.
And I taught her how to play Sorry.
Fun times together and more fun times to come! I love that girl!
Precious moments. I know you treasure each and every one!
I’m with you, judy. They steal our hearts. I wasn’t expecting to be so completely over the moon about my time with them.
It’s great that you are going to be closer to her. I thought of you yesterday…
I was talking with a sailing club member who has moved into her in-laws house while she is working on another grad degree. They were living in Oman and got moved out of that country due to C19.
Her complaints involved her in-laws not willing to do day care for her son while she in doing her school work – online of course. Her mother, who lives in the same city, is willing to be with her grandchild. I tried to explain that the in-laws may think that they had done the child rearing duties and may not want to continue with a grandkid. And, the in-laws have co-morbidities and are freaking out about C-19. They grill her about where she was, mask wearing, and so on.
It was so hard not to tell her that she was the one being unreasonable and I tried to show her that her in-laws may be reasonable. Of course, I did not try to tell her that she needs to find her own apartment to live in.
BTW, the in-laws have spent money to create a quarantine shed in case they want the kids to go there. I think I would have moved in there and offered to start paying “rent”. But, the person is really looking for day care.
A dear friend & former neighbor moved to be closer to her daughter & granddaughter, just to be able to be more involved in the care. Now that her granddaughter is older, she is missing the daily contact but she doesn’t mind when she gets to pick up the grandkid and take her around for errands.
When my mother got sick, I gladly took her into my home. After all, she spent 18+ years watching over me. A few years taking care of her during a health crisis was no big deal to me. I enjoyed our time together and I miss her because of that time we spent together.
maybe you need to go ahead and move Boots — will give him the opportunity to get used to the house and you some company when no one else is there with you. This assumes you have someone you can trust to go in and take care of him when you are not there.
Judy Laquidara says
I’m only in MO a couple of days every other week so it’s not time to move him yet and no, there’s no one I would ask to go by and spend time with him each day. He’s better off in Texas til we move. At least when I’m gone, Vince is home with him almost every time.
Nelle Coursey says
Love Addie’s doll setup. (At least she put the “bathroom” close to the “bedroom”) LOL It won’t be long now until you’re there all the time and get to see her all the time!