Vince has joined in on the house search. Ladies, be careful what you ask for! 🙂 He is trying and he’s being somewhat agreeable about what kind of house we’re looking and where we’re looking for said house so I’m not complaining. But, it’s like everything else we do . . either he doesn’t listen or I don’t communicate very well.
This morning we were both looking at houses online. We were looking in the same town and we both set the houses to show highest price to lowest price so one of us can say “Look at the one on Azalea for $XXX,XXX and we’ll be looking at the same house. He found one, told me to look at it. It was way smaller than our current house and has more rooms so I kinda ruled that one out without really looking at it too much. Then I looked at it and saw that it wasn’t really a house I was interested in – no basement; no place to sew, the kitchen is small.
After while, I hear Vince on the phone and he’s talking to a realtor about THAT house! Wait . . that’s the house I don’t really like. He is 100% sure I said I liked that house!
Kinda like when we found Rita. I was in MO and he was telling me names he might use. He said Rita and I said “I don’t really like that”. He said “OK. Rita it is!” Huh? When I got home, I said “Why did you name her Rita when I didn’t really like that name?” and he said “Oh! I thought you said you did like it! Now, it seems like a perfect name for her but it was funny.
Anyway, the realtor sent the disclosure for that house and I was cracking up reading it.
First, “Are there areas of house not served by central heating/cooling?”
Yes: Back deck
Really? Who has a house that has an air conditioned back deck??
“Are you aware if any of the above (structural modifications/alterations) were made without necessary permit(s)?”
Oops . . not sure I would admit that to the potential buyers or to the city authorities.
Anyway, it isn’t a house I’m interested in. The disclosure also said there’s been a mold issue and termites so I think Vince is no longer interested either.
marcille irwin says
My husband does the same thing to me! For almost 40 years now, he will ask me what I want to eat whether it’s at home or eating out. When I tell him what I feel like, every single time he goes to the opposite restaurant or decides he wants to fix the opposite of what I said I wanted. I keep asking him why he even bothers to ask me when he doesn’t listen to my answer. (Of course, he insists that he always opts for my choice.) He is either a very good actor, or sincerely believes that he heard me say the opposite. I really think he just has one thing in mind and doesn’t even hear me.
When we bought a new car 11 years ago I told my husband I did not want a red car or black interior guess what he came home with. When we bought a new couch I told him I did not want a couch with loose cushions guess what we have. I’ll admit the couch is very comfortable and I like it but it does have loose cushions. I don’t think men hear the words don’t want unless it’s them saying it. LOL In the scheme of things it’s not a big deal but ……..
Nelle Coursey says
Well you don’t want mold, termites or a house that has additions that were done without a permit! Too many things to go wrong!
Judy, hold on to your hat…this is going to be a fun ride!!!! LOLOL
Actually, it is necessary that the seller reveal EVERYTHING he knows about the property for sale. If the buyer finds out something detrimental after the sale, he can come back to the seller and sue for more money, saying the seller knew about this problem and didn’t reveal it prior to the sale.
We’re in the midst of selling our childhood home, and this is what we have found out.
I think that if a husband always asks the wife’s opinion and then does the opposite, that the wife hasn’t figured out how to answer the original question.
Husband: “What do you think of this house?” wife:”Hmmm. What do you like about it?”
Husband” “What color car do you want?” wife:”I’m not sure. What color do you want?”
Perhaps the husband’s question is actually saying, “Ask me what I think, what I want. Listen to my answers and then (maybe!) I’ll listen to your thoughts.”