Vince is a good, helpful husband so please don’t think I’m complaining about him but when he was having to do everything for the past week or so, he didn’t have a clue. I almost laughed out loud a couple of times but knew that wouldn’t be a good idea.
Since moving here, we got a new washer, a new dryer, a new dishwasher and everything is electronic and he didn’t have a clue how to work any of them. Those crazy pads will lock you out if you push the wrong button too many times and I never can remember how to unlock them and have to look it up on the internet. “Tell me which buttons to push on the washer!” I’d tell him, trying to remember but you know I just do it out of habit and don’t pay any attention so I’d say “tell me the options” and I’d tell him and half the time, it worked for him and it half the time it didn’t.
I can’t say much though because he does all the chicken chores and he has a routine and the chickens know exactly what he’s going to do. When I feed them, I get it all mixed up . . give them scratch first or refill all the water containers first? Those chickens are creatures of habit and they do not like it when I screw up their routines.
Vince also takes care of all the bills, all the financial stuff, all the savings, health care account, investments, and I know very little about any of that. He has a detailed list so I would know what to do if I ever had to take it over.
In our earlier years of marriage, I guess when we were always busy with Chad’s activities, we both did everything. He knew how to wash clothes, I knew which checkbook to use. Now, we each have our own chores and we don’t cross over too much which can make for some confusing and comical times when one of us has to fill in for the other.
Debbie Rhodes says
I have noticed that same things here… since mine retired.. he doesn’t know the first thing about using any household appliances.. but that doesn’t keep him from looking over my shoulder and offering “advice” on how to do things different. I do all the bills, financial things and every-time I try to explain to him he leaves the room . He doesn’t want to know.. so I hope I have it all written out so he could understand it if I was suddenly unable to do it all. I tell my two girls, you will have to take care of Dad.. he has no clue!!!!
Maybe you need a similar list for Vince, for if he has to take over. =) Hopefully, neither list would be needed for many years to come.
This is so true for me as well. My Cowboy has had to help me on occasion and other than “not” using my fabric scissors because he knows something bad would happen, I had to walk him thru the kitchen routine, the mopping because I have a Swifter, washing clothing because he wants to put EVERYthing in at once….and so on….sigh, giggle!!!
Bev Gunn says
It is really a sign of preparedness when both know all the ways things need to be handled! I ended up single 15 years ago and, luckily, I had always been involved in the financial management of the household, because it is rough going from 2 incomes to one and trying to keep thing straight! Yep, i overdrew a couple of times, but did learn to live on my income alone-thankfully I had returned to school in my mid-30’s and gotten a degree that pays well. Now I am looking at health issues that keep me from working full time, so now I have to readjust my life style accordingly. I am also looking at providing for my adopted son who is only 15 and has learning challenges and other issues so he will not be a burden to his older sisters. (If only I wasn’t such a procrastinator!)
Well after my hubs had stents put into his arteries; I know now more financial information than I did before. The dr’s thought he was having a heart attack, and it turned out it was plaque in the arteries (took care of that with a good roto rootering! and stents).
Hubs cannot do the dishes, wash laundry, much less wash the floor. But he does vacuum and dust !LOL Oh and he walks our dog (once in a while to the dog park !LOL)
Oh also wanted to tell you that we bought a 22 ton log splitter after we couldn’t repair the small one. Hubs love it !
Marion Morgan says
So very glad you sound almost back to normal. Certainly your sense of humor is intact. Vince has done a great job as we all knew he would of filling in till you can return to the chickens etc. take care Judy.