No, we’re not making any drastic changes (I hope) but the other evening I was sitting at the computer, looking out the window. Since I was sitting in the same position for half an hour or so at that time of day when the sun is just going down, I could see changes in the sky each time I looked up. Have you ever seen a beautiful sunrise or sunset and ran to get a camera, only to find that in the few minutes you were away, the whole scene had changed?
That night I was thinking about change, how slowly or quickly it can come, and how we react to certain changes. As I thought about sharing my thoughts here, I wanted to take photos the next night to include in my post. The next night was Saturday night and a storm was rolling in, which didn’t yield any much needed rain, but did give me the opportunity for some great photos.
How often do you think about how the day goes from daylight to darkness? I never really think about it. It’s daylight. Then it’s getting dusk. Sometimes, because I wait until the cooler evening to do my chores, I’m rushing at dusk to get finished before darkness overtakes but often, in my “busy-ness”, I only notice that it’s daylight and then . . it’s dark. I don’t see it, nor do I stop to think of it as the daylight so gradually fading to darkness.
A pastor from years and years ago, often gave an example about how we accept or fight change. I don’t have his words exactly right but basically, it’s this — if faced with sudden change, we’ll often squawk and take a stand against it. Gradual change is more readily accepted by most of us. An example he gave is a frog. Remember . . this was southwest Louisiana where we grew frogs as big as medium sized dogs (almost) and love to eat frog legs!
He said if you throw a frog in a pot of almost boiling water, he will immediately jump out. If you put him in a pot of water that’s room temp, and then turn the heat up to boiling, he’ll sit right there and die. The example illustrates how we often react to change . . we accept a little at a time but don’t give it to us all at once.
I think about folks from 100 years ago. If they could see the changes that have happened in our country or in our society, what would they think? For us, who live with the subtle changes day by day, we accept many of the small changes . . that lead to big changes. We can say that we need to mind our own business and be more tolerant but sometimes I wonder. Yesterday we went to Wal-Mart and Big Lots. This is not a rant against Wal-Mart or Big Lots! When we got in the car, I told Vince . . I will NOT go back there on a weekend! Not ever . . not for anything! People have no pride. They are rude. They scream at their dirty little children who look like it would take a wire brush and SoftScrub to get them clean. A young man was sitting in his pick up with “music” blaring and the words were words that should not be heard in public.
Vince said “What has happened to us as a society when this kind of behavior is ok?” I told him that my feeling is it’s because families have broken down, children are not being taught morality, respect for others or themselves. We’re living in a world where too many, including parents, do only what they want to do, without respect for others or for the welfare of their own children.
Maybe I’m old. Maybe I should be more tolerant. Maybe I should be more open to the changes but I see dusk settling in on us as a society. I see darkness fast approaching and yesterday, I didn’t see niceness or compassion or consideration of others. The majority of what I saw . . I wish I hadn’t seen. I can say that I don’t want to go to Wal-Mart or Big Lots or probably the grocery store on the first weekend of the month but not seeing it doesn’t mean the world is a better place.
Many changes in our society are good. I still see lots of good in the world. I’m not one of those saying we’re going to hell in a handbag . . not yet anyway. Sunday as I was following Vince around Big Lots, we ended up on the book aisle and I saw Bibles. I wondered .. does anyone ever buy a Bible any more. Then we went to Wal-Mart and I was convinced too few Bibles are sold and read. No matter what your religious beliefs, how can you not see that life is better when you practice the Ten Commandments and the Golden Rule?
Maybe instead of curtailing gun sales, we need to teach “Thou shalt not kill!” Maybe instead of installing more security systems, we should teach “Thou shalt not steal!” No matter what you believe, how can you argue against the basics rules of life?
Can we ever get back to a point where people care about covering up parts that should not be seen, where people aren’t proud of tattoos that say bad words and are plainly in view of children . . often their own children; where people treat their children as little people who have feelings and need to be taught respect . . and discipline; where people smile instead of scowl; where folks are genuinely courteous and kind?
Will things change before the darkness completely overtakes us? I wonder!