The other day I had washed all the sheets and some of the quilts. It was a full day of washing and drying clothes. It was getting late and Vince asked if our bed ready for occupants. I told him I had not put the quilts back on the bed. He said “I can do that.” I said “No!” I almost said “No, you can’t” but realized he could . . I just couldn’t let him.
This is a heart bargello quilt I made. I’m not sure when I finished it but I remember having it on my design wall at the house we had in Kentucky in about 2002 so it could be close to 20 years old.
We have three quilts on the bed and a down comforter. The comforter usually just covers our feet and I only keep it on the bed during the winter because we mostly don’t use heat at night and, as you can see, we might have cold toes tonight if we don’t have extra covers.
The house won’t get too cold and the heat will come on about 5:15 so it will be warm when we get up.
Anyway, I put the quilts and comforter back on the bed and Vince said “Why couldn’t I have done that?” I hated to admit it but I said “Because I wasn’t sure if you would put the heart going the right direction.”
Vince: How would you have known since it’s not the top quilt?
Me: If I didn’t put it on, I have to check it before I go to bed.
Vince: Have I ever put it on wrong?
Me: Yes, once in Texas but it’s ok . . I turned it around before we got in bed.
He wanted to know what difference it could possibly make if it didn’t show. I couldn’t tell him . . but it would be a problem for me if I knew it was wrong or if I woke up in the middle of the night and wondered if it was wrong.
I’m not sure why I can walk through the kitchen, with every cabinet door open because that’s how I often leave them, and that doesn’t bother me, or how the mess around my stitching chair doesn’t bother me but don’t put the quilt on the bed upside down.
Vince probably wouldn’t even notice that it had a heart on it because unless you’re a bit away from it, you don’t see it but since I know it’s a heart, then I would know right off if it was upside down or sideways. Poor Vince . . living with me can’t be easy . . but I can cook! 🙂
Cindy F says
I’m glad I’m not the only one that leaves a cabinet open!! I worried when I started doing that with the spice cabinet…I sometimes do that with a drawer too if I’m going to get something else from it shortly. I even leave the sliding door to the pantry open when I get flour or something that goes back because it’s heavy and why close it just to open and close it again? As far as the quilt oriented the correct way, I can understand that too because that’s the way the design is meant to be! I might not wake up in the middle of the night wondering about that but I have done that wondering about other things!
Nancy H says
I will come along behind and shut them all. I have a daughter and husband who will get something out and leave the cabinet open. Now that drives me as crazy as Judy’s flipped quilt does her.
Marilyn Smith says
That is me in the way I load the dishwasher. The few times J has done it, I always redo it so I can get more in, or like pieces together or needed room for pots and pans. He has given up but does rinse most of the dishes and I then put them in the dishwasher. I often remake the bed after he has made it so it is perfect. But, our bed does get made every day, he just stays in bed a few hours more than I do. That is when it became his job!
judy.blog@gmail.com says
Right! And if I were at your house and went to put my plate, glass and fork in your dishwasher and it was half loaded, I would see how you do it, and I would do it accordingly but nope, not Vince. I’ll have all the plates lined up going the same direction, the bowls on the other side. He’ll come in and put a bowl with the plates, the plate with the bowls, the glass totally in the wrong spot. I never say anything. I figure he put it in there and that’s a good start. I just re-arrange it and be done with it.
Shelley says
I have a quilt with ducks on it that I stenciled and they HAVE to go the right way. My hubby helps me make the bed and he just doesn’t get the ducks going in the right way. I totally relate to your heart!
judy.blog@gmail.com says
Thank you! I figured I was the only one that felt that way.
Karen Blankenship says
Judy, this makes total sense to me. My dh probably wouldn’t be phased by it but I would get up and fix it before I could go to sleep. My kids are unable to close cupboard doors. I marvel at it.
judy.blog@gmail.com says
My mom would get so mad at my dad for leaving cabinets and drawers open and losing his keys and wallet. I do the exact same thing. One day Vince asked me “Do you know how it feels to walk into the kitchen with every cabinet door open?” Of course I do .. I walk in there way more than you do! Only thing is .. it bothers him and it doesn’t bother me. I do try to do better.
Donna in KS says
Oh my! The quilt going the right way? Of course! You bet! it matters!!! My husband learned….if it wasn’t obvious, look for the label or the sleeve! LOL Actually, we made the bed together a lot, fun and easier! The dishwasher? No, he just gave up and let me fill it! Choose your battles, you know!
vivoaks says
Oh, I had to laugh when I read your post. My daughter married a man who was really OCD. Everything had it’s place, and everything had to be in it’s place. She would make the bed in the morning and later he would go in and re-make it. It would drive her up the wall. 🙂 She finally told him that she was not going to bother anymore, if he was just going to do it again. Now they have two boys, 5-almost 6 years and a 2 month old…. There are enough toys, clothes, apparatuses, bassinets, baby furniture and you name it – everywhere in their house; the bed is almost never made by either of them and there are times she’s looking through a dozen boxes to find what she’s looking for! 🙂 I think, for the most part, he’s given up. LOL I’m surprised he hasn’t lost his mind already! LOL
judy.blog@gmail.com says
That’s too funny . . but maybe not for him.
Tee says
I vowed to myself that I would release some control over the kitchen now that hubs and I are home fulltime.
Nope. Can’t do it. It drives me insane to have to hunt for a utensil that is not put back where it has been put for 13 years. Drives me insane to have the dishwasher run half empty because it wasn’t loaded right. He empties it, so why can’t he remember how its loaded?!
judy.blog@gmail.com says
I understand and agree!