Today is the day we begin shopping for a mattress set. Shopping is one of the most stressful things we do. It doesn’t matter if we’re shopping for groceries, a house, a car . . it’s just stressful! I hope you realize, there’s not much stress around here so a little bit of stress seems like a lot. I totally dislike any kind of dissension. I like to make a decision . . Today I want to buy a mattress. We get in the car, go to a few places, try a few mattresses, buy one and it’s done! Vince, on the other hand, wants to look at E.V.E.R.Y. mattress place in town, get every brochure, read every word, come home and talk about it; go back on Wednesday, go to E.V.E.R.Y. mattress place in town, ask questions, come home and think about it some more; forget that we need a new mattress set. Then weeks later, I bring it up again and we go through the process all over again because one of the places may have gotten something new in stock.
If we’re shopping for groceries, he wants to pick up every can, read the contents, look at the cost per ounce, decide if he likes the picture on the can . . I’ve gone down three aisles while he’s deciding which can of green beans to get.
While grocery shopping, I can usually find something else to do . . I’ll go get a gallon of milk while he decides on beans. While shopping for things like cars or mattresses, other than sitting in the car knitting, which isn’t being much of a team player, there’s nothing I can do but stand there while he looks at every stitch on the mattress, mashes his hand into the top and calculates how far down his hand sinks, and how far his body would sink and how long it takes to recover.
The bottom line is that I totally hate (and I do not like that word but it fits) shopping and Vince loves shopping and finding the best deal.
You see why I found a house online and said “I want this one!”
I’m not considering one of the top end mattresses for several reasons. We don’t buy top end anything. We’re not keeping a mattress longer than 10 years, no matter what brand it is or how much the cost. Also, this is a mattress set for the basement bedroom which will be a guest room for those who want to sleep in there (Addie’s room can also be a guest room). I’m hoping Vince and I will sleep in the basement bedroom during the summer because it’s so cool down there.
When I bought the mattress set for the apartment in January, 2020, I went to the same furniture store where we had bought a mattress set about 12 years prior, bought basically the same set I had because we loved it. Took me 10 minutes in one store and I was done. That place doesn’t deliver here and no one here sells that brand or I’d buy the mattress set over the phone and not even go shopping. That’s the mattress set we now have in our bedroom. I love it. Vince doesn’t.
We can’t order a mattress because (1) I don’t want a foam type mattress, (2) we have no way to dispose of the old mattress set and (3) we want to bring the mattress set from downstairs to Addie’s room and put the new set down there and we need the furniture guys to do that.
So . . today we’re going searching for a new mattress set. Any guesses as to how long before we actually end up buying one?? Wish us luck!!
Helen says
I predict that Vince will forgo the past process and buy a set today!!! (I am saying a little prayer that this will happen!)
Elle says
I’m on team Judy. I shop under duress. Mattress? Laid down on 3, bought #3. Hubster wanted a Tempurpedic or I would have just called the store and ordered another Dr Choice like the one we had that aged out. We bought this house in 1 hour back in 1991-looked at 7 and made offer on #7.
May the force and the patience be with you!
Phyllis says
Kind of looking forward to Vince’s research. Always feel like I am comparing apples to oranges and never get the right thing. I hate shopping too, but enjoy someone else doing the leg work.
April Reeves says
I went shopping all day Saturday with mom and most was spent looking for a mother of the bride dress for her. After we got home empty handed, I searched online for a good while showing her pics and we finally decided on one and I ordered it. I didn’t want another day scouring stores. Turns out the store shopping was essential for me to understand what she was looking for but for me, I already know what looks best on me, so most of my shopping is done online. Every once in a while I’ll be out looking for something and wonder why I didn’t just buy online.
My ex is like Vince (degree in engineering, hmmm) and needs to check out all the options. The first time I went shoe shopping with him was the last time. lol. He once priced shopped a broom (pre everything on the internet days). Unless the store doesn’t have it, no way I’m going to another store to see what their selection is like.
Jill McCaughey says
Just gotta laugh at Vince, and all the other engineers. It drags on and on and on…we once bought a car —MY car, by the way, I had already driven several and made my choice- and the day we picked it up, fully paid for, and left the dealer we had to go to another dealer “just in case” they had a better price. After exiting the car and letting him wander around, I decided I would shop by myself from then on, and it ha worked just fine for both of us. Good luck on the mattress. Jill in Calgary/PPhoenix
Stephani in N. TX says
The first argument of our marriage started days after the wedding, at the PX, buying set up of groceries for our first living together. We argued in the first row of groceries and weren’t even speaking when we left, over our butter vs margarine disagreement. Our best friends told us afterwards, never grocery shop together. The husband who had been a banker before our time in the service said flatly, two people buying groceries, bottom line, just buy more than one person shopping. My husband, the engineer, and myself, the book keeper had to agree, and we did very little shopping together our entire marriage of nearly 50 years. It made such sense and it sure was easier. Car shopping was the one exception because my husband was a car man and knew far more than I (we never had a lemon),
Jean says
OMG, Judy! My husband is just like Vince and I am just like you when it comes to shopping. I try to avoid shopping with hubby at all costs…….