It’s a good thing I find our conversations comical because if not . . we’d be in trouble.
I was reading Vince something . . two lines. Often when I tell him something or read him something he’ll say something so off the wall, I wonder how on earth there can be such discrepancy in what I say and what he hears.
Suppose I say something like . . It may snow later this week and he’ll say “There’s going to be a blizzard tomorrow?” I didn’t say blizzard. I didn’t say tomorrow.
Tonight I read him a headline and his response was so off the wall from what I said . . I asked him “How is there such a disconnect from what I say and what you hear?” His response . . Because I don’t listen when you first start talking so I only really hear the end and I have to guess at what you said.
He admitted .. he doesn’t listen when I talk! It’s like in his head, he’s thinking . . She’s starting to talk. Should I listen? No. Then after a sentence or two, he thinks . . I probably should have listened. I heard the last part so I’ll make up the first part, then repeat it to her and she’ll let me know if I’m right or wrong.
Men!
Just now, we had this conversation:
Vince: What was the best part of your day?
Me: Getting to spend time with Chad and Nicole.
Vince: What was the best part after that? Waking up and talking with me this morning?
Me: How could that be the best part AFTER Chad and Nicole because it happened BEFORE they were here?
Vince: Because I meant . . if the first best thing was spending time with them, what was the second best thing?
I can see what he’s thinking but I can also see what I’m thinking. Communication skills . . so underrated in this household!
I wonder if our conversations have always been this way or if we were too busy with other things to notice, or if one of us paid more attention, or maybe we both did. I don’t know!
Helen says
Hahaha…sounds like our house!
Rebecca says
I’ll admit that I wondered the same thing: how could this morning be after the visit? But when Vince explained it, I understood (and hope that was the second best part–waking to him AND Addie!
Judy Laquidara says
Yes! That was the best thing. As we get older, waking up is always good! 🙂
Therese says
I’m with Vince’s interpretation on this one!
Ruth says
I understand Vince’s point too! He meant ‘what was the second best thing that happened’.
Judy Laquidara says
I understand it too but it seems like any time something can be interpretted two different ways, we always read it differently. At least we’re still able to laugh about it.
Cindy F says
My husband and I will be in the same room doing different things and then my husband will say something to me. He expects me to know what it is he said but I have to have him repeat it because my attention was on something else and I missed the first part. I’ve told him he needs to get my attention first but he keeps doing the same thing so I kind of get what is happening with Vince. 😀 Then again, sometimes I’m guilty of doing this too!
Judy Laquidara says
I’m kinda always listening to see if he says something but if I’m in the middle of typing a blog post or trying to figure out cross stitching, I’ll hesitate to answer and within a matter of seconds, my mind moves on and I totally don’t answer and I know that’s frustrating for him. We both need to work on communicating.
Kay says
My husband always said he didn’t know if I was talking to him or to myself or the dog. So he asked me to say his name first and when he responded, then talk to him.
Judy Laquidara says
We have talked about that too. Vince will be mumbling and I’ll say “What?” and he’ll say “I’m talking to myself!” Or, I’ll be talking on the phone and he hadn’t realized I had called someone and he’s saying “What?” and I have to say “I’m talking to Donna!”
Susan Nixon says
I always love reading your conversations. You may not communicate, but at least you have someone to talk with you … on some level. LOL
Judy Laquidara says
And most of the time, we end up laughing at our “misunderstandings”.