Men! I blame a lot of it on Vince being an engineer. Several of my friends have engineer husbands and we often compare stories. There isn’t a doubt in my mind that old men are sitting around somewhere saying to young men . don’t marry a woman who likes to do crafts. You’ll never have any money, your house will always be cluttered and you’ll end up raising the kids while she’s off at a retreat. So I do understand that the craziness in our marriage is not one sided nor is it unique to us.
Think about this: We have the closing on our house in a few days; Vince is trying to get things packed and cleaned. He’s working his butt off and I appreciate that. He has to come here and we have things to do here (get driver’s license, MO tags on the vehicles . . which means getting them all inspected, cancel some things in Texas, think about building a shop, maybe a chicken coop, find a dachshund puppy. There’s so much he should have on his mind.
This morning, he sends me this: 6 Retirement Killers to Avoid At All Costs. Don’t get me wrong. I believe in planning for retirement but honestly, we’ve planned and planned and we re-evaluate our strategy and we have quarterly meetings with the financial planner and we trust him. I am not concerned at all about our retirement years.
I know everything on that list is important but retirement planning is very near the bottom of my list of what’s important for the next few weeks.
I wrote him back and said “I like #4!” which is basically “Enjoy the people and activities you care about!”
For Vince, I guess thinking about that kind of stuff is what works for him. For me, at least for today, it’s figuring out how I’m going to spend quality time with Addie, find time for cross stitching and a bit of knitting, and figure out if the Easter Bunny is going to lay eggs inside or outside. I suppose Vince can worry about the five items except number four and I’ll take care of number four. 🙂
Susan Nixon says
It isn’t just husbands! Paul and I were actually pretty close in our plans most of the time. Now I’m dealing with my older son, who has a completely different agenda than I do. LOL I have to say he tries to be very … sharing of his planning, though he plans about 10% as much as I do. He sent me an e-mail today that started out, “I realize you may be feeling some anxiety about ….” LOL
Judy Laquidara says
That made me laugh! Sorry. But, the good news is he at least acknowledges your feelings. Good son!
Donna in KS says
I lived with an “engineer minded” husband, have an engineer educated son and oh, my! Those minds do indeed function differently! I adjusted/compromised with the husband but now with that son is another journey! Several years ago, my husband volunteered to make a quilt block for a bannister at church. Actually, a lot of years ago because I was not quilting yet, but still sewing clothing. He put that living tree (HSTs) together like an engineer, not a “sewist” would. Years later when even he had become a quilter, he made a throw size living tree block quilt and thoroughly enjoyed stitching it! Not working at it!! In every aspect, they are a little different but oh, my, how we love them!!