With Vince in Texas, last night we were on the phone before we went to bed and when I hung up, I thought . . this kinda reminds me of when we dating. You know we met on the internet, talked on the phone for months and months before we met in person, then it was still a more than a couple of years before we were marred and even after we were married, it was a couple of months before Chad and I left Louisiana and moved to Kentucky so Vince and I spent hours and hours on the phone during those years.
It’s funny because it’s almost like dating again. We don’t say things like . . me saying to him – “Don’t forget to take the trash out before you go to bed.” It’s your turn to take the dog out.” “Tomorrow will you fix the squeak in the garage door?” He’ll say things to me like “Are you going to wash clothes tomorrow?” which I take to mean . . you should have washed today! “Can you clean up your stuff around my coffee pot before you go to bed?”
It’s never really angry stuff but sometimes he aggravates me and I imagine I always aggravate him.
I like the idle chit chat late at night – more fun talk than we normally do after almost 24 years of marriage. I think when he’s here living, I’ll suggest we set a cut off time . . say 8 p.m. when we’ll have just “dating” talk . . no real life crisis talk.
It’s so easy to forget the way things were when we were dating our husbands. Years of real life change things but kind words, discussions that result in giggles . . that’s much better than real life discussions late at night.