Just about the time I think Vince and I have figured out how to make it through life, that Mars/Venus thing strikes again.
I keep plenty of toilet paper but I don’t keep a ton of paper towels and we seem to go through more paper towels. I guess in my head, I feel like we can/should use more dish towels so if we couldn’t get paper towels, life would go on with just a minor inconvenience.
Probably Friday Vince came in and we had this discussion:
Vince: Do we have any more paper towels?
Me: Did you look in the closet in the laundry room?
Vince: There’s only one roll there.
Me: Take it . . I have a fresh roll in the kitchen.
Last night I was chatting with friends online and they were talking about not being able to find toilet paper or paper towels at Costco, their local Walmart or Sam’s Club. It made me realize that we’re about out of paper towels. While talking with them, I got on my phone, checked Walmart and sure enough . . they only had two varieties of paper towels, neither of which are my favorite, though I’m not a name brand paper towel snob. I go through enough of them that inexpensive works for me.
I added them to my grocery cart, along with a few groceries I needed to get to the $35 minimum order, scheduled my pickup for 7 – 8 a.m. this morning.
Vince had been downstairs watching TV. He came up and I said “I scheduled a grocery pickup for 7 – 8 in the morning. Is there anything you need me to add?”
He wanted to know why I was doing that and I explained the paper towel situation.
Then, to my surprise, he said “Why didn’t you ask me before ordering paper towels?” Well, the main reason is I don’t ask him about much of anything before I buy it – the small stuff anyway. If I think we need it or I want it . . I get it. He was not happy because (1) we didn’t need paper towels and (2) he thinks we have no place to put them.
I canceled the entire order at Walmart and as far as I was concerned, the discussion was over. This morning, I kept thinking about it so I told him I wanted to talk to him about it.
Me: Just the other day you were asking me if we had more paper towels and I didn’t know where any were. Last night you told we had plenty. Where are they?
Vince: They’re in the closet!
Me: Which closet? (Thinking maybe there were more in the laundry room closet and we had missed them!)
Vince: The closet under the stairs. (which I never go into)
Me: I didn’t know there were paper towels there.
Vince I opened several big boxes that were full of paper towels and I put them in there just to get them out of the way.
Me: Then why did you ask me if I knew where there were more paper towels . . if you knew where there were more paper towels?
Vince: I asked you if there were more paper towels UPSTAIRS!
Me: No, you didn’t.
Vince: You knew what I meant!
Me: No, I didn’t!
That conversation was solving nothing so we didn’t keep rehashing it but later, he said “I’m going to town to find paper towels?”
I didn’t say anything but last night he said we didn’t need paper towels. This morning . . he was going to town to find some. I went downstairs to look in the closet and there were three packages of paper towels – two packages had two rolls and one package had three rolls. Depending on how you look at it, we did have plenty but, on the other hand, we have some cold, potentially snowy weather coming up and always before now, I try to have everything we’ll need at home to get us through at least mid-January. Seven rolls of paper towels is not going to last us another six weeks but . . I was not starting another paper towel argument.
Some of you who are better at communicating than I am . . how on earth would I have known that he meant Did I know where there were more paper towels UPSTAIRS when all he said was “Do you know where there are more paper towels?”
In my mind, if he doesn’t know where any more are, and I don’t know where any more are, for all practical purposes, we are out. There may be some in boxes but who knows when we’ll find them.
Some days I think not talking at all is the best way to get through life! But . . me . . not talking?? Never going to happen!