Vince cannot figure out why I’m crying about selling the tractor. Honestly . . it just took up space. He bought it 9 years ago and it had 28 hours on it. He wasn’t sad to see it go so why am I sad? I don’t know. Vince can’t understand how I’m so happy to be going, so excited about the new house and yet, I’m crying!
I hate that he feels bad that I’m upset and keeps thinking I don’t want to move. I’m going to grow up . . and stop crying! 🙂
This is more than just a move for us. It’s an entire lifestyle change – a huge lifestyle change. I’m not sad to be moving and I’m so happy with the new location. I can’t wait for COVID to be over . . for so many reasons, but also so we can go to the amazing Webb City farmers’ market. That may be what I’m most excited about . . today. Also, I can’t tell you how many times we’ve thought about going out to eat here and decided there was no place that really interested us. There, we’ll have so many choices. I have my favorite places in Joplin but there are many places I’ve never been. Tulsa is 1 hour, 50 minutes away. Rogers, AR and Springfield, MO are about 1 hour, 10 minutes away – different directions though.
No matter how hard I try, there are going to be tears over the next few months.
Sara Fridley says
Tell him they are HAPPY TEARS!!!
Elle says
IT makes total sense to me. You’re closing the “homesteading” chapter. You love it and you hate it. You’re ready to move on. But it is still a loss.
Cheers to tears 🙂
Judy Laquidara says
We know we can’t stay here forever and as we get older, we need to be closer to Chad and Nicole. The longer we put that move off, the harder it will be to make friends and get involved in the new community. We both know we’re doing the right thing but, like you said, we’re closing a chapter that has been fun, but yet back breaking hard. It’s time for change.
I love what you said – cheers to tears. I need to celebrate the tears and not feel bad that they’re falling.
Paula says
No matter how happy you are to be moving, this is a huge change! Some things are bound to make you sad and/or nostalgic, but you also know you have so many more happy things to come. Vince may not be as sentimental, so he doesn’t understand.
Judy Laquidara says
That makes sense. Thanks!
pennyguglie says
Tears of joy and tears of loss look the same. Spend extra time sharing both with him and even though it is harder try to get him to share. Big changes even good ones are hard. It is a decision made together and now as you travel the road to that decision there are bumps and places where caution is required to be shared. There are also a lot of good things out there and if I were you I would research and list making would fill my future. Plan your joy.
Judy Laquidara says
Thank you!
Teri says
I call it bittersweet. A new chapter in your life about to begin!
Nelle Coursey says
Sometimes it is hard to let things go because it is an ending for something. But just keep thinking of the good that awaits you. And it is not like you will be selling the property here right away and you can come back to visit.
Stephani in N. TX says
You managed to land right side up in TX and made a silk purse out of your life here. If you do it once, you can do it again.
Liz says
One suggestion to decluttering and saying goodbye to things is to take a picture of it so you can have the memories but not the stuff. Take a bunch of pictures of your place now and review your posts for pictures of the changes through the years.
A dear friend has a bunch of small picture books that her daughter makes up every year – you take the pictures, send them in, and you get a book. But, she lost her husband this spring (lung cancer, not C19) and they had a picture board of him and family members at the cemetery. The daughter still has it and can’t seem to let go. I reminded my friend of the picture books as an idea so she can get the originals back to the photo books.
I need to do this for a bunch of family history stuff, but it is also hard to discard some stuff. But, I also decided to just start using some of the stuff and not let it be just for special occasions. I use the good china, silver and glasses from my parents. Real napkins instead of paper – go for it. Tablecloths – yes – I even bought the old kitchen style cloths from the 50s since they are so fun to use. It makes things feel a bit more special. And unfortunately, the nieces won’t want the stuff when I am gone.
When I declutter, I just donate to the various charities that have pickups in the area. I am not into holding a garage sale, though I will admit that I liked going to the flea markets and antique stores. Best place to get cast iron pans, old quilts, and featherweight machines & tables.
Judy Laquidara says
You live in a much larger area than I do and our options are quite limited for donations. I’m not that sentimental – especially about a place. There are plenty of pictures on the blog and memories in my head.
moneikquilts says
We love Springfield, MO. We spent our honeymoon there and love going to Lamperts to eat. We are supposed to go to MO for a Nascar race in October, but I’m afraid our trip will be cancelled. We planned to run down to Springfield.