Last night I was talking to Nicole and she told me that Addie needs to come stay with me more often. She said she and Chad had both noticed how nice, easy going and well mannered she was when she came back. I told Nicole that Addie was probably afraid if she wasn’t super nice, they’d send her back to Texas to mean Granny, grumpy Grumps and millions of bugs that wanted to eat her alive!
Nicole said she has really been so sweet, hasn’t argued, has done things the first time they asked her and there has been no running to her room crying when she didn’t get her way.
Here, we had the talk with her about answering us when we asked her something; one night she slammed a door when she didn’t like what I had told her. I didn’t say anything then but the next day we were out walking and we talked about respect and how no one gets their way all the time and how rude it is to slam a door or hit a wall or someone. We talked about how we all must control our emotions, think about how the other person feels but there’s never a reason to be hateful or disrespectful.
Once she asked me why I always said thank you to people so we talked about that. I told her that if someone does something nice for you, even a very small thing, always say thank you. Even if that person isn’t expecting to be thanked, it’s a nice thing to do. I noticed by the time she left, she was saying “thank you” to both of us all the time. Vince went out one night and filled the bird bath with water. When he came in, Addie told him thanks for filling the bird bath. He said “Why are YOU thanking me?” and she said “Because the birds can’t talk!”
Seriously, it wasn’t like I said “She’s a bad child and I need to straighten her out while she’s with me.” I just did the things I did with Chad; made sure she knew why I do the things I do and why I think the way I think. I tried to always explain the reasoning for the things I asked her to do and the things I expected of her.
Those examples are the main reason I wanted to be closer to her. It’s not that her parents aren’t doing a good job of raising her . . I think they are; but just to have another perspective; to see and experience the values that are dear to me; to experience sewing and being able to make things; cooking all the meals from scratch (except the ton of corn dogs, fish sticks and tater tots she ate while she was here).
OK . . her parents have had her almost a week. I think it’s my turn again. 🙂