First, Vince is not grumpy with her but he expects a certain “standard”. When Addie first got here, we would ask her a question and if she didn’t want to answer, she simply ignored us. She would come in from outside and one of us might say “Where have you been?” No response. Or, Vince might say “Addie, would you go ahead and take your bath?” No response.
About the second night, we talked to her and told her that we expected her to answer us when we asked her a question. “We don’t ignore you when you ask us something and we don’t want you to ignore us when we ask you something.” We explained about being courteous and how she would feel if she asked her teacher or mom or a friend something, and they ignored her.
She agreed and she really did better after that about answering us.
But, her feelings were hurt and she went into the bedroom and cried. I went and talked to her and one of the things we talked about was that Grumps never knew his grandparents and he never got to spend time with them so he doesn’t remember what it was like when he was little and spent time with his grandparents . . because he never knew them.
The next night she and I were talking and she said “Granny, I think I know why Grumps seems angry.” I said “Why?” She said “He never knew his grandparents and I bet he never went trick or treating!” I almost laughed. I wanted to say “What the heck does trick or treating have to do with it?” but I didn’t say that. I did say “When we move to Missouri, maybe you and I can buy him a Halloween costume, you and I can act like his parents and take him to go trick or treating! She thought that was hilarious and you can bet she’s going to remember it and want to buy Grumps a Halloween costume.