Ahhh . . I had a few hours home alone this morning. Vince left early to go get some things he needed in town. I said “I can go with you or I can give you a list of a few things I need” and he said “just give me your list”. I think he enjoys going out shopping without me as much as I enjoy being home alone.
It’s also funny when I think back how frustrated I was when he first retired and we both struggled to find our places in this “new” relationship. I missed my time alone. I missed being in the kitchen by myself. I missed having my music (that he doesn’t like) on all day. He had similar issues. Even though he was used to being surrounded by people all day, he spent a lot of time alone in his office. We found our places and learned our new normal and now, even though I still love time by myself, I miss him when he’s gone.
When I’m in MO with Addie, I love every minute with her but when I walk back in the door after dropping her off at school, whether it’s at their house, the hotel or the apartment, I cherish a few hours alone so it isn’t that I don’t enjoy time with either (or both) Vince and Addie, I just need a little time alone.
While he was gone, I got some laundry, cleaned one bathroom, worked in the kitchen a bit – the same things I do when he’s home but it was just enough time to give me a bit of alone time and be happy when he got back.
Rebecca in SoCal says
Sounds like things are working out well.
Susan Nixon says
I think part of my problem around here is that I am almost never alone in the house. I have times when no one is in the room with me, but I know they are there, just beyond a door. For instance, this morning when I finally got to sew, I wanted to turn on the 40s Pandora station (which is really gone now, but still), and have it loud enough to hear from the living room to the sewing room … but both sons were sleeping, so I didn’t. I know they would both like to turn THEIR music up, too, but I don’t like rap, and I don’t like a lot of other things, either, so they can’t, either. Still, it would be nice to be alone sometimes.