A friend left a comment wondering why we don’t build instead of buy. I figured others might be wondering the same thing so I’ll share our feelings here.
First, in all seriousness, I’m not sure our marriage could survive a building project and we have a pretty strong marriage. For Vince, it’s the dollar that matters. If I LOVED tile that was $100 more than one I didn’t love, he would insist on the one that’s $100 less. If you remember 5 or 6 years ago when we added granite countertops, we got into one of our worst battles over the granite choice. He actually wanted a horrible shade of green granite. Then, there was the sink. I love stainless sinks. We had the black granite composite sink the house we rented here. I hated it. We had the same sink in this house when we moved in and I hated it. He wanted it again. I had been begging for him to change out the cast iron sink at our house in MO and put in a stainless sink for the 4.5 years we lived there and he wouldn’t so I was excited to finally get my stainless sink. Nope . . we got the black granite composite sink. The sink in the kitchen that he rarely uses and has never cleaned. Then there was the backsplash. I wanted subway tile – a lighter, shiny tile. He insisted we get a dull, tan ceramic tile that cheap and that’s what we have! I can make compromises but I will not build an entire house with bargain basement choices for colors, floor, tile, etc.
Then, get this: The other day we were looking at pictures of houses online and one had a stainless sink.
Me: Oh, I could get my stainless sink!
Vince: Why are you saying that? YOU chose the sink you have!
Me: I did not! I begged not to get that sink!
Vince: I remember you wanting that sink.
Oh, no! I went back to the blog. There were several posts about me NOT wanting the granite composite sink and Vince wanting that one. Thank goodness for evidence! 🙂
Second, both of us have built houses, though with other spouses, and we have bought houses. Vince and I have bought four houses together. Buying is so much easier and less stressful.
Third, it would probably take longer to build than to buy a house. We want to be on the water or at least have a water view and we want at least several acres of land. Finding land on those Corp lakes is very difficult. We want a walkout basement so finding a walkout basement lot on a lake makes it even harder. We don’t to be on a paved street/highway so that makes it even harder. I could see us looking for years to find the right building lot for the house we want. It’s much easier to find a lot when you’re looking to build in a subdivision or near a town.
Then to find a builder. That area is booming with real estate developments and good builders are booked for months and months. We talked to a couple of builders about building a shop for Vince if we find a house without a shop and there’s almost a year wait to get just a shop built.
We will get moved in much faster if we buy a house. If we decided today to build, I can see it being at least a year or maybe even two years before we could get moved in, due to having to find a lot, get a well in, get electricity lines run, then get our plans drawn, get on a builder’s list and wait til it’s done.
We’ve actually only been looking in that area less than two months. We are picky . . I’m sure our realtor thinks we are very picky. There aren’t a lot of basement houses there. When I look online there are about 1,000 houses listed within 20 miles but realtor.com brings up houses that are way farther than 20 miles from town, but less than 100 with basements. Also, get about 25 miles from town and you’re back in Missouri and Vince won’t move there because of taxes so we’re a bit limited.
The problems, which aren’t problems really but they reduce the houses that fit our parameters, are:
- walkout basement
- either separate a/c units or zoned for basement
- at least 3.5 bathrooms
- stained wood (vs. painted) kitchen cabinets
So, we’re buying a house. We will find one that we can both be happy with. There’s no rush!