Cat is the weirdest cat ever. Granted, I am not a cat person. I know nothing about them. I want her to be my friend. She only wants to be Vince’s friend. I’ve tried giving her sardines and tuna this past week. She’s figured out what I’m doing. She pretends not to see me putting treats in her bowl and ignores me. I walk away and when she thinks I can’t see her, she gobbles them down but she will not acknowledge that I am giving her special favors.
Vince walks out the door, she comes running up towards him. She will get about 3′ from him and make him come to her but she won’t even look at me.
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This is how bull headed she is. Yesterday it was drizzling all day. The grass was wet and it was chilly outside.
Cat loves sleeping upstairs in the shop. There are several comfy spots there where we find her. She loves sleeping on my car. We keep a rug up there and she sleeps on that. She loves sleeping on a piece of cardboard that’s up in the carport. She has numerous warm, dry spots where she could be sleeping. No! She sleeps in the rain, in the wet grass, right by the edge of the porch so she’s right there when Vince comes out the door.
I walk out, she looks up like “Oh . . it’s just you!” and keeps snoozing in the wet grass. Vince walks up out and she jumps up . . all happy to see him.
Yesterday Vince said “I think she wants to come in!” Yes . . I’m sure that’s NOT going to happen. She still hisses at me if I walk too close to her.
Do cats not have room in their heart for two people? Boots loves everyone equally – us, friends, strangers . . he isn’t picky.
Apparently Cat doesn’t remember that for two years, it was me sitting outside trying to coax her to come close enough that I could pet her . . all the while Vince was saying “You’ll never tame a feral cat!” I don’t see her ever being a lap kitty but she surely does love Vince.
Kathleen says
you are very funny !!! I do have one thought – some cats are very sensitive to a direct look from another animal or human. Try not looking in her eyes, or just don’t open your eyes very wide when you look at her. If he looks at you, blink your eyes very slowly – that’s what cats do to each other. A big-eyed stare is a confrontation.
of course, she just may be weird, as you say !!!!
aren’t we all………
Shirley Hobbs says
We have two cats, Gus and Maggie. Gus is more my cat and Maggie more my husband’s cat, but they will “cross over”. My husband goes to bed about 8 pm as he gets up for work at 3:30. Maggie will follow him to the bedroom, talking to him non stop while he gets ready for bed. She stays with him a bit, until he falls asleep, then she comes back out to the living room with me. When I wake up in the morning, after my husband has left for work, they are both in bed with me. When we first got them, as kittens, Maggie did not want to be touched at all. She gradually came around and loves being petted and getting belly rubs.
Sharon says
I know it’s hard being rejected time and time again when you only want to love cat. At least you can take comfort in the thought that you have made her life better even if she doesn’t show you the appreciation you deserve. This may sound strange but ignore her. I have a dog who wanted nothing to do with one of my children who pursued her affections. Once my daughter stopped trying she suddenly became more interesting to my dog. It’s worth a try.
Paula Hidalgo says
Judy, I have fed and captured for spaying or neutering quite a few feral cats(they are fixed and released back here), they come and eat but will not let me pet them, except for one, when she was a kitten her eyes were sealed shut for a long time so I could ‘sneak’ up on her and handle her, brought her in a few times for grand daughter and I to wash her eyes. I can now pet her and she waits on the patio most mornings for food. She will run if anyone else comes out but will allow me to pet her. She won’t sit on my lap or anything like that, just a few pets and maybe rub on my legs. I think it’s a feral cat thing…apparently she thinks Vince is ok and you’re still a threat…LOL!!!
vivoaks says
I left a reply, but it’s not up on the site now….
Marianne says
I’m a cat person. I’ve had them all my life and I know that cats can tell when you are not a cat person. You cannot treat them as you do a dog. I’m guessing Cat senses you are not fond of cats. That said, I’ve found if you try too hard to be friends that turns them off too! You should try being the only one to feed her and don’t try to make friends, just be available!
Rebecca in SoCal says
I am surprised that she once seemed to be warming to you, only to turn to Vince now. I agree with the others about not trying, other than maybe being her exclusive feeder. Especially the advice about not looking directly at her. You know the “common knowledge” that cats can enter a room and go right to the person who least likes cats? That’s thought to be because the people who don’t like them won’t look at them! Also, a friend was telling me about the “cat whisperer” dealing with a cat under a bed…he’d do very slow blinking, and apparently that would work!
Susan Nixon says
I’m sure he loves having someone in his corner. LOL