I’ll be right back. I have to run grab a tissue. My lip is bleeding from biting it so hard to keep from laughing at my husband. I really don’t want to hurt his feelings but sometimes . . he’s doing something and he looks at me and my facial expressions give away my thoughts. Vince was reading this article to me this morning and seriously, I was biting my lip and apparently raised my eyebrows at just the moment he looked over here!
The title of the article is 7 Reasons You Shouldn’t Work During Retirement! As Vince was reading the 7 reasons to me, he got down to:
- Continuing to work might strain your relationships!
All I said was “Is that article written by a man?” Yes!
Vince looked at me and I was grinning and he said “If I continue to work, I can’t come visit you in the sewing room!” He was joking because of the incident with him coming to see Boots when I escaped to the sewing room for some alone time.
It’s funny to think that if we live to be even as old as my parents are now, we will have been living with him retired about the same amount of time we have lived together with him working. I know that once he does retire (he hasn’t yet), we’ll find our new normal but it’s going to take some compromise and habit changing on both our parts. Speaking of that . . at 8:00 this morning Vince this was our conversation.
Vince: What time do you want to go to town today?
Me: Why do we need to go to town?
Vince: I wanted to go by Tractor Supply and I thought you wanted to get another prime rib.
We ended up going to town. Every single day except one this week . . we went to town! This is not going to be our new normal . . I hope!
danielle nabozny says
After about 9 months of retirement – I told my husband he had to find something to do or I was going to kill him. So he started volunteering for the Pantry in town…..and the PD in town…..and the Parks and Recreation in town. Well, 8 years later the PD volunteer job is down to rarely because their needs changed; the P&R is still going on….and the Pantry job morphed into a paid job (to drive their trucks you have to be a paid employee) which was supposed to be a total of 8 hours/week which is now more like 12+ and he is complaining about working too much!
Actually I am sympathetic…..it is a few hours on Monday morning; more hours on Tuesday morning; occasionally some hours on Wednesday morning; sometimes hours on Thursday morning, and always on Friday morning. So it is more than he originally signed up for. And he keeps threatening to quit but hasnt so far…..
Linda in NE says
Hey, I went to town yesterday (meaning the larger town 25 mi. away)! But that was only because our dinky little town didn’t even have anything Easter related to put in the littlest grandkids’ Easter baskets. I’ll bet it was close to six months since I was there. It’s probably been close to a year since I was to the next largest town, 60 mi. away for shopping. Between what I can get in one of the towns 25 mi. away and Amazon there’s usually no need to make that trip. I need my eyes checked though, so I’ll probably have to make the trip this Spring.
Heidi says
I kind of dread the day my husband retires and it’s still 10-15 years in the future. I’m used to being on my own during the day! My tenative plan is we’ll have a small travel trailer or camper and when I feel he needs to get out of the house and leave me alone for a few days I’m packing it with groceries, clothes and his fishing rod and he has to take a mini vacation.
Debbie says
I really really miss alone time during the winter. He “plays” outside spring and summer. But even then he manages to bug me. I think maybe us who have been home alone for years it bothers us more.
Nelle Coursey says
Vince needs to get into his woodworking so he can have a hobby. He needs something to do to keep him out of your hair! LOL Don’t tell him I said that!
Sherrill Pecere says
Poor Judy..it will be a trial (with LOTS of errors!! LOL)
Dar in MO says
Judy, I have an idea. You need to make a “honey do list” and the minute Vince looks like he’s going to ask you to go to town or shopping, you ask him to fix something, look up something on the computer, put a lightbulb in somewhere that’s too high for you to reach, fix a stuck drawer, door or anything! If you continually ask him to do things around the house, he might want to work a little longer, OR get a hobby outside or in the garage area. 🙂
dezertsuz says
Hope for a gas crisis so you have to combine trips once a week? =)