Every single day, I say to Vince “I hope you can learn to stay at home during retirement and not have to go somewhere every day!” Vince’s response .. “I can. I don’t need to go somewhere every day!” Prove it! 🙂
Fairly early this morning:
Vince: We need to go to Walmart because my order (sweatpants) is in.
Me: I am NOT going to Walmart today!
An hour later:
Vince: We need to go to the pharmacy because my Rx is supposed to be ready.
Me: Are you out of the meds?
Vince: No.
Me: I’m going to Abilene next week so you can go during lunch and get your meds and grab a bite out since I won’t be home to fix lunch.
Half an hour ago:
Vince: We could go to town and eat a late lunch – Mexican!
Me: No! We’re having mac & cheese meat loaf.
Vince: You can sit in the car and knit while I get my Rx and my order at Walmart.
Me: I’m not going to town but I don’t mind if you go without me.
It’s 45°, it’s cloudy. It’s cold, it’s damp. I don’t want to sit in the car and knit while he shops at Walmart for stuff we don’t need. He knows how much I love Mexican food and he thought that would convince me but after having the tooth filled, I bit the heck out of my lip before it was awake and it hurts to eat anything. Chips and salsa make my mouth hurt just thinking about it.
I feel like a bad wife (which I think is exactly how he wants me to feel because then I’ll give in and go) but dang it . . I don’t need to go to town (and neither does he!); I don’t want to go to town and besides . . I still have on my pajamas!
Cilla Tyler says
You’d be a perfect WalMartian if your wore your PJ’s there. I might see your photo on FB???????? (snicker). I’ve seen worse in person and on FB.
karenfae says
when my husband retired we found that we did not have to do ever thing together – we go to the fitness center to work out at different times he likes mornings I like afternoon, he doesn’t accompany me to Wal-Mart and other shopping on a regular basis (I do the shopping not him) – it is good to have time apart and not do everything together. I don’t like to have him along constantly – I need “me time”
Judy D in WA says
E is still having a heck of a time staying home. He finds a reason to go somewhere almost every day, even if it’s just to drop mail at the post office. Drives me crazy. And it’s been 2 years already since he retired. And then there are the days when I secretly hope he finds some place to go that will last for hours and hours. 🙂
Mary Jo says
My husband restores old cars (his own and for friends) and has a shop about 20 minutes from home. He will occasionally say that he is going to retire and quit working on cars and I promptly tell him that he can quit working on cars, but he still needs to go to the shop everyday because I don’t need him underfoot!
Linda in NE says
Who came up with the idea that just because you’re married you need to spend every living moment together? They should be flogged! My husband has been retired for five years and he still thinks he has to go somewhere every day, even if it’s just to go downtown for the mail even on the nastiest most miserable days. I certainly wouldn’t want him along when I go shopping. It’s bad enough on my own, I don’t need him complaining about what every single item costs. Maybe the idea of needing to stay home when he retires will keep Vince going to work for a while longer. 🙂
Kathleen says
I’m a stay at home gal too. DH gets out 3-4 days a week to golf, so he doesn’t get too restless. When I do have errands, he likes to tag along. The funny thing is when its fabric shopping, its ok. He actually has some good ideas. But I don’t like grocery shopping with him. I feel like I need to justify some things I buy. Not so with fabric.
Pat says
My husband has been off from work three weeks for Christmas vacation. I have already told my kids I am going to kill him. Under my feet too much. Comes in wants to know what I am doing too much. He is suppose to retire for the second time in September. Is it a crime to murder your husband after retirement. When I was working I worked in a manly retirement community. The ladies was always coming in complaining about there husband after retirement now I understand.
Nelle Coursey says
LOL I never took my pj’s off today! They felt so good! I am a bad person! I don’t see a reason to put clothes on unless you are expecting company or you are planning on going out somewhere! I didn’t have either so I “lounged” today! LOL I really need to go to the grocery store and I am in town. I just don’t want to do it! I know a lot of people feel the same way!
Susan says
I can always find a reason not to go do something when it’s cold! Or hot, or raining or cloudy or sunny. LOL You are going to have your hands full with Vince when he retires LOL
Penny says
It was good to have a pajama day today ~ so comfy & cozy! Showered & powdered then put a clean pair of jams on this am. Wish everyday was a pajama day!
Amy Makson says
My husband, since retirement, is similar. He seems to need to go out once a day, goes and runs ONE errand, often eats lunch at a fast food place ( leaving the homemade leftovers in our fridge)… and returns. We are not as far as you, but about 20 minutes from stores, so still silly to run one errand, in my opinion. Must be genetic.
Joyce in Oregon says
One of my former jobs was administering pension plans for a very male-dominated industry. I used to counsel the wives that they were going to have half as much income and twice as much husband. Be happy your husbands have found an errand that gets them out of the house — even if it seems nonsensical. Sometimes men have a harder time being social creatures and shopping and restaurants are great places for them to talk. I also counseled the men that just because they had been the boss at work didn’t mean they were going to be the boss at home. If they thought there was a better way to load the dishwasher, they needed to take over that job, not just offer “helpful” suggestions. That said, my husband retired in May and thank goodness he has wood carving, wood turning, and kayaking to keep him busy. 🙂
Lace Faerie says
My Daddy was an advisor, too. He said it was amazing how the wives COULD find $25 extra each paycheck for retirement savings when he said the very same thing: twice as much husband, half as much income!!
Carolyn says
I feel your pain, Judy. My husband spends the weekend running errands and always wants me with him, which is fine most of the time. This weekend it was not…I have post-herpetic neuralgia from shingles, as well as a currently active shingles infection so my pain level is through the roof right now and I don’t feel well. Cold weather makes it worse. We had record cold this weekend so I told him I would only be leaving the house for church. He ran errands on Saturday (alone) and wanted to go to the movies after church yesterday. Ummmm…no! I just wanted to wrap up by the fire! He knows he’s never allowed to retire!
Lace Faerie says
My HH retires at the end of next month. I’ve told him two things. 1. If you think you are going to go through my kitchen cupboards and drawers to organize them like your father did to your mother, I’ll poison your tea! 2. If you think you are going to sit in your recliner all day, I’ll burn the tv!
He better get a start on all the wood working projects he been bemoaning no time for the last decade, or poisen tea will be the least of his worries! ?