Vince asks the craziest questions and he asks them over and over again. He’s always walking up to me and saying “What are you doing?” If I’m doing something weird, I’ll tell him but most of the time, I’m knitting or washing dishes or chopping onions and he should be able to see and readily discern what I’m doing. At those times I say “Baking a cake”. It’s gotten to where he’ll then say something like “Oh, what flavor?” and I’ll tell him something like “Raisin Mango” and then he’ll say something like “How long til it’s going to be done” and I’ll say something like “On Tuesday, about 4:20”.
Lately he asks me where I got everything. Tonight we’re having steak for dinner. He said “Where did you get them?” Out of the freezer! I was slicing jalapeno peppers. He knows there are none in the garden right now. “Where did you get them?” Out of the fridge!
Is he just trying to make conversation or is he trying to aggravate me?
Men!
Donna F says
My husband does that too. I think they just want our attention is all…at least that’s what mine says. He will irritate me endlessly until I give him the attention then I do back it to him when I know he’s busy just for payback. It works too.
Linda in NE says
I think it’s a guy thing…..they just can’t stand it when we’re doing something and don’t drop everything to pay complete attention to them. I mean, really, most of the time what we’re doing is perfectly obvious. Guy thing!!
Linda says
My hubby does exactly the same thing, as we’ve been married for more than 35 years now it is a little exasperating! So often now I’ll something totally ridiculous like…picking my nose! Hasn’t stopped him though!
Sherrill says
Sounds to me like he’s just yankin’ your chain!! HA
Pam says
When mine looses something and is looking for it, I used to ask where did you find it. His reply “last place I looked!”
Hey, at least he’s talking to you. Gotta love ’em!
Linda says
LOL – reminds me of the little boy next door when we were growing up. He would always ask what we were doing and, when we told him, he’d always say, “but why?” He drove us nuts!
Julie in WA says
Funny! It was just the opposite at my house when growing up. Small children would ask my dad what he was doing and HE was the one who always answered “baking a cake”. The younger children did not really catch on, and they always followed it up with “Why?”!!!
Barbara says
When my husband asked me obvious questions, I answered him as though it was a real question.
Now that he is gone, I really miss those silly questions.
Enjoy them!!
Marly says
I recommend Deborah Tannen’s “You Just Don’t Understand. Women and Men in Conversation” for the how and why of these kind of situations, and how to deal with them.
I replicated one of the situations in this book. In the UK motorway service stations are sometimes 100 miles apart and there are no other parking places or toilets along the road.
Me, wriggling, on seeing sign for a service station coming up:”Would you like to stop for a cup of coffee?’
Hubby, after contemplating for a l o n g time: “No, I’m OK We’ll be there in TWO hours.”, and we had passed the turn off:
It looks like both men and women don’t don’t understand the other’s conversational coding.
Marly says
I didn’t mean to use a double negative in the last sentence: we simply … don’t understand.
Dottie N. says
LOL – Thanks for the smile!