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Help Me Out Please!

We need intervention . . or maybe an unbiased opinion . . so long as you say I’m right.

You all know that I spend a lot of time coming up with ideas for tasty meals. I never take the quick and easy route . . I just want good food.

As I was in the kitchen cooking . .

Vince:  What are you cooking?
Me: It’s something with ground beef, cabbage, carrots and some spices.
Vince:  Do you think it’s going to be good (sounding like he was thinking it didn’t sound very good!)
Me:  No, I’m pretty sure it’s going to taste like crap!
Vince: Why are you fixing it then?
Me:  I just felt like serving horrible tasting dinner!

Then I said . . why would I fix something if I didn’t think it was going to be good?

Vince: You need to work on being a little kinder with your responses!
Me: You need to stop asking dumb questions!

Who was right? Vince .. I need to be kinder with my responses? Or, me . . he needs to stop asking dumb questions?

And before anyone gets the wrong idea . . we were just joking with each other.

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  3. Well, I have to vote for you being right. Louis does the. same. thing. Drives me up a wall (in a loving way of course). So I vote for Judy is right.

  4. You are too funny. We are very similar at our house….it is good to have playful teasing!!! (You are both right!)

  5. I think when Vince comes up with a statement like that, he deserves the statement you returned!!! 🙂 My hubby and I sound just like that, too, so I know where of I speak!! 🙂

  6. Why can’t you both be right? It sounds like a conversation we would have except the roles reversed because Chris does the cooking here.

  8. Oh my gosh …….I could not stop laughing!! I have always enjoyed making things for my family that “tasted like crap”. I say you are right. My other standard answer was “I am making goat nose and okra”. I feel your pain my DH has the same conversations with me (joking also). Make that two votes for you!!! enjoy your blog, Barbara from GA

  9. We just had a similar discussion at our house. Why do men ask such questions!!! lol.

  11. Oh my! I sit here laughing out loud because we just had almost this same conversation just a few nights ago. It ended pretty much just like yours, so I, too, will be interested to see how people respond. I will admit that some days I’m more tolerant of the dumb questions than others. Somestimes it just strikes a nerve, I guess. 😉

  13. It never hurts to be kind, and it’s always wise to keep one’s own counsel about what the cook is doing. =)

  14. common situations all over
    its not a matter who was right or wrong
    you all bounced off one another-lol
    love ya

  15. Well , of course you’re right! 😀
    That sounds exactly like a conversation I’d have with my husband. 🙂

      • Lol ahh. I still like that answer. I don’t see what you said so wrong. I tell my hubby whatever I fix even if it does taste like carp he will eat it and he will like it or go hungry.

  18. Never realized how lucky I am!!! My DH will eat anything that doesn’t eat him first!! Never even asks, just is thankful that there is something hot to eat. grin. Ok –I vote for you too Judy.

  19. Judy, even if you were joking, I go thru this daily. About 4 pm he askswhat’s for dinner. This is after he already asked at noon – what’s for lunch.

    I have a loser every now and then (mainly when I dont feel like cooking. As of tomorrow, I have been doing it for 49 years. Many years without a break from it when we did not have the $$$ to eat out. It was only after the boys both graduated from college that I started to bring home KFC or mexican food about twice a month. That was a big treat! I have always spent good money on food – I don’t skimp. Many nights I cook two different meals as I am not a pork or chicken fan. I cook it, I eat it. He does not like steak unless it is prime.. He loves fish – I hate it. But if it is crab, shrimp, scallops, oysters or lobster I could eat that every night. I do not care for turkey except for one meal a year and the soup I make from it. He is an Oklahoma boy and grew up on overdone beef, lots of pork chops and roast (back when pork was tough). He will not eat even slightly pink pork yet. It has to be well. I did get him to appreciate medium rare beef after he grew up on tough, well done steaks. I love lamb. He hates it So, I cook fish for him and cook lamb for me. You get the picture.

    I am an excellent cook and I go to lots of trouble some nights. I would love to be taken out for a good hot meal once a week. He does not mind if I pick something up, but it is so much better hot and in a restaurant.

    Tomorrow, for the 4th time in our 49 year marraige, we are going to a fancy steak house to celebrate our anniversary, I hope they still have the lobster with passion fruit sauce I had many years ago. If not, it will be the best rib eye they have! I have earned it!

    Many of my friends feel the same way about cooking. Only two are great cooks. But, they are getting tired after more than 50 years of cooking to having to do it every night.

    I love that you and CJ love to cook so much. I do love it still, but just on one night a week when I don’t feel like cooking, that he would agree to going out and I would be waited on. Some place we don’t have to dress up to go out. Tomorrow, I will get a little gussied up but nothing formal by a long shot.

    I vote for you Judy!

  20. well, since you sound like my husband and myself, I would have to say that you are probably both right!

  21. Judy, you crack me up! Next time tell Vince that diet food is not supposed to taste good!

  22. I totally would have said the same thing! I hate cooking, would not do it if I had a choice but if we want to eat….actually, it’s not the cooking I hate it’s the decision of what to cook that I hate. I especially hate when I come home from work and my husband who has been home all day asks me what’s for supper!

  23. Judy is right. The hub can cook or he can eat. He can offer option input, or not. Mine does dishes and I cook. That’s the deal-I do one or the other, not both and he prefers dishes. And I totally understand the warped humor. I see us in some of your stories and we’ve beeen hanging out for nearly 34y already 🙂

  24. LOL..that is too funny., I have conversations like that all the time. I finally just made a simple response of “here’s your sign” so now he knows. Same with the kiddos. “Can you get the milk”, “where is it”, “in the bathroom….duh”

    I think you were both right in your responses it is the Venus Mars thing again.

  25. Hubby eats out all the time driving a truck. So when he gets home he wants me to cook, which is fine, except I don’t go out except when I’m driving with him….so I always want to go out!!! Yeech!! Lucky for me I have friends 🙂 so I can go to dinner with them sometimes….
    I think you are both right.
    What I hate is when I ask Mr. Trucker what he would like for dinner, after all I am cooking for him, and he says ” I don’t care”? I usually reply I don’t care either or sometimes I say I can’t cook that. Then I go cook something and he eats it all and takes some with him when he goes again. At least he is a very good eater!!!
    Love your posts 🙂

  26. we have basically the same convesations! I always say if you don’t like it you try coming up with something to cook and cook it – when I ask “what do you want to eat” it is always “I don’t know” well then – take what you get and don’t complain;)

  29. that sounds exactly like conversations in this house. i usually say….if you are hungry…you’ll eat it. it seems the older he gets….the pickier he gets.

  30. I’d say you are in the right. It’s enough just coming up with a menu for dinner…way anyone would put effort into prepare something that tastes bad….silly guy…..got to love em’!!

  31. Yep, like some others have said, I always felt the hardest part was figuring out what to fix that everyone would like. My DH would eat ANYTHING and never say a word. He was so easy. But I found it much easier to just go out so out we went! Now I only cook when our church class is taking a meal for Ronald McDonald or I volunteer for Sun. am breakfast at church or we’re having a get-together. I enjoy that as it’s just a dish, not an entire meal. And I’ll make a pot of soup and freeze it in small servings to eat on these cold days. But I do think that was a dopey question from Vince, asking if you thought it would be good. That goofy Vince! LOL

  32. Definitely YOU! Seems like there are similiar “stupid” conversations that go on in my house and he wonders why I get so tired!!!! Between DH with those really dumb questions and the youngest grand children around I am always needed, albeit too much at times since I feel like “Carrie” from the movie with her head spinning around just to keep up with them all. Thats when I go shopping and get my fix and serenity too. Thanks for the chuckle.

  33. Typically while I am cooking something,DH will ask if that was still good? My response nowis – NOPE, thought I’d wip up Salmonella Soup or another swarcastic quirky response. These guys are really pushing the envelop if you know what I mean.

  34. Hmmm—wonder which word set off the wondering if it was going to be good? The cabbage, the carrots, the ground beef or the spices. Sounds good to me! Maybe Vince wasn’t sure if he was going to like something in that mixture. So, was it good?

  35. LOL! D & I would’ve had the same banter! I’d just hand him the wooden spoon (or whatever) and ask if he wanted to take over so it would taste better. 😉

    Soooooo…… how WAS it?

    🙂

  36. I am afraid I have to agree with Donna on this one !LOL
    But was it a goodie meal ?? LOL

  38. I’m with you all the way. Why would I waste our money or my time to fix something I thought wouldn’t taste good.

    Now my fellow comes in when( I have a very small kitchen too) I cooking as says can we eat now. DUH!!! Did I call you and say it was time? Then when I call he just sits there like a bump on a pickle. Men don’t you just love them…….

  40. poor Vince……he does not stand a chance….I will say…..my husband would agree with him 100% and I will just leave it at that!!! 😉

  41. Funny! Try making your favorite chili without beans and use chopped up mushrooms instead. I happen to use ground buffalo and my husband loves it. It is a good cold weather dish! Enjoy!

  46. Looks like you are right!
    My vote is always with the one cooking the meal., since I am the only one that cooks around here.

  47. When I cooked, I used to say the first complainer is the next cook. Or if you don’t like it, there’s always PB&J. The banter was all in fun. Now DH is retired and he does the weekday cooking because I still work outside the home. So once in a while, just to ‘jack him up’ I ask the dumb questions… and he’s a LOT less nice with his responses! Shoe’s on the other foot, and we do laugh about it. Eventually. LOL!

  49. Maybe Vince should just do what my 8 yr old grandson does — when he says grace before a meal, he always says, “…and please let this food be good.” Cracks me up!

  50. LOL!! We would have had the exact same conversation in our kitchen! Also joking of course 🙂 And of course I think the men should stop asking dumb questions 😉

  51. Sorry Vince, you set yourself up asking questions like that. If
    You are concerned it isn’t good, you are welcome to start being the chef. How many “bad meals” has Judy served? Maybe just wait and enjoy your meal. If you don’t care for it, pbj is always an option. Good eating!

  52. awww, Judy, you missed the perfect opportunity to tell Vince that you were cooking dinner for the meal worms, and that you clouldn’t wait to see the grin on their faces when they chowed down that night. LOL.

    when he asks a dumb (and very obvious) question, just come back with and equally dumb, out-in-left-field answer, and grin like anything.. Oh, and be sure to keep a tin foil hat handy for him. he’ll need one to straighten out his thinking. *wink, wink*

  55. My response would have been, “I think so, but if it’s not, we’ll toss it and go out for dinner.”

  56. Well, I have heard and I also tell my students that the only dumb or stupid questions are the ones left unasked. I tink I would have said, I hope so, but everyone’s taste buds are different, so we will have to wait and see.

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