Some days I awake and have to pinch myself to see if this is all real. Life is great. I know that things can change instantly but for now, I’m enjoying every second of my life, even the hard work . . the sweat and tears. I do believe that even though life is close to perfect here, we can expect tears every now and then. I’m one who can be hard as nails for weeks and then Vince can look at me wrong and the tears flow. He never quite understands that but I don’t either.
I’m not saying I’m a perfect wife or mother, and I’ve made more than my fair share of mistakes through my life, and I will make more mistakes I’m sure. Vince and I work real hard at having a good relationship, but the work is so worth it at the end of the day. Sometimes I bite my tongue . . boxes that he promised on Saturday to move are still in the living room floor. He bites his tongue too . . the watermelon I keep saying I’ll cut and clean is still not done. I’m going to do it when I finish this blog post . . really! It will be cold for lunch!
This is the song that is my alarm that wakes me up each morning. If you don’t like old country music, you won’t like this song. But, it reminds me to pray for Vince . . as he leaves the house, encounters the corporate world and gets through his day. I’m mostly up before the alarm goes off but I stop whatever I’m doing and listen to this song all the way through .. every morning, and then I pray for my husband again.
As I listen to that song, the part where she sings “I’m thankful for the day You made him mine”, I have to smile. Vince and I met on the internet almost 20 years ago when meeting “dates” on the internet wasn’t real popular. We accidentally met and not very long into our talking both of us said “We’re not looking for a relationship!” We were serious and you see where that got us! 🙂 We were meant to be together and I’m so glad for that chance meeting.
From the time Chad was a little blonde headed boy, I prayed for a good wife for him and that he would be a good husband to that wife. I truly don’t think a whole lot matters in life if you aren’t happy at home. I also smile when I think of Nicole. She’s a great mom to Addie. She doesn’t mind doing yard work on the days Chad is working long hours. She’s dealing with them having one vehicle and her living in a town where she knows no one and has no transportation. She’s a funny girl, she’s willing to try most everything Chad throws at her – hunting, fishing, trapping, skinning critters, tanning hides . . she is the perfect wife for him from what I can tell. And, she’s the perfect daughter-in-law for me!
When Nicole first started coming to our house, she had absolutely no interest in cooking . . not even boiling water. Now, she’s been making all their own bread. Last week she made homemade hamburger buns and posted them on Facebook. Her friends were telling her how great they looked, and they did. This is one of Nicole’s comments.
That makes my heart happy!
Yes, life is good! I am thankful every day for so many things.
Diane Muska says
Great story! Thanks for sharing and reminding us about what’s important!!
Janna says
You are truly blessed as am I. I too pinch myself at times even 19 years after I married Michael–I no longer have to go to work in an operating room, I no longer have things thrown at me nor am I yelled at all day long. I live in a place most people would envy. Yes, it is 22 miles to town but you know, that is OK! I too am truly blessed.
Adrienne says
And God bless you for appreciating your good fortune rather than taking it for granted.
Beth C. says
From a very frequent “lurker”……..thanks for putting things into perspective for me today. I needed it.
Beth in AL
Dora the quilter says
Yes, your life is very blessed–and I am so happy for you–but also thinking that your level of happiness is seeping over into the lives of others and just making the world a happier place! May it continue to be so forever!
Becky says
another old song also says so much..
Every Night Before I Sleep I Count My Blessings Instead of Sheep….
I am so happy for you
Cindy says
I wasn’t looking for a husband either, 32 years ago. However, we make a really good team and we complete each other.
Donna says
I have so much to be thankful for! My daughter is married to a great guy who works in Moore, OK. He was at work when the tornado hit last week, being less than a quarter of a mile from the devastation. The tornado that hit Shawnee the night before went right over my son’s apartment before it dipped down. I was so blessed to have all the kids home over the holiday weekend and give them hugs. My heart is so full of thanksgiving for the wonderful works of God in my life. I am more than blessed!!
Linda says
What a great song. I love country music but do not ever remember hearing this one. THANKS
Lee says
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AngieG9 says
Beautiful song Judy. Someone once told me that it is always precisely when you’re not looking for someone that you find the love of your life. That seems to be so true of you and Vince. My very best to you both forever.
Mary in VA says
Thank you for the reminder to count blessings. My son is home for a while and catching me up on all the stuff that I haven’t been able to get to. That is truly a blessing for me!
VickiT says
Great story. Good luck on teaching her quilting too. I am happy she’s interested so you have a leg up on me. My son and finacee moved in with us last year along with our granddaughter who is now 1 yr old. I bought a 2nd embroidery machine since because it was one of those can’t pass up deals at my Viking store. I have tried numerous times to get her interested in learning to quilt or at least sew since she loves spending money on cute little outfits for my Granddaughter but they really can’t afford them. I told her she has an endless supply of fabric and every ribbon and all the tools she could ever need so this is a great time to learn since she’s not working. She is a crafty type person but hasn’t jumped into the offer yet. I keep hoping she will.
I also accidentially met my husband online back in 2000. This was true fate because had I not chosen to go back to college at the age of 40 and was having computer prolbems I never would have met him. He works in IT and builds his own computers so he offered to come fix it free if I paid his gas and fed him while he was here and bought the parts if any were needed. My computer tech was getting $50/hr at that time and I caught him with my limited knowledge I had learned in my classes already to know he was sabatoging my computer so I wouold be forced to call him back to fix it again really soon. I booted his butt to the curb and took Curt up on his offer. One thing after another and he very soon after that time moved here from Michigan. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary and I still can’t believe how it all happened. I know me choosing to go to college to become a Computer Information Specialist had everything to do with it though.
I have to ask a question since this has bugged me for a long time now. Is there any way to type our responses to your posts in something other than cursive? I’ts very hard to read and I find myself having to retype things often as the font is so small too that I have a hard time reading some of the letters in words to be sure I typed it correctly or not. I haven’t wanted to complain but wondered if there is some way to change it on my end so its not so small and cursive. If not, I’ll continue to check in and comment so it’s not something that will make me leave. 😉
Toni in TN says
Ive had problems also and thought it was the bifocals.
Lynda from Chicago says
Thank you all for sharing your stories. Met my guy 50 years ago this October, 2 daughters, 5 granddaughters, and 2 wonderful son-in-laws later “Mr. B” is my best friend and we are truly blessed! 🙂
Sheri says
What a wonderful blog post! I’ve prayed for my kids’ future spouses since they were little, too. I can’t wait to meet them one day! Loved reading about you and Vince, too.
SharO says
Thank you for sharing the song. I don’t think I’ve ever heard that one . ( As I’m sitting here crying).
shirley says
Yes Judy you do bless more than one life. I do and will pray for my husband. Shirley
Linda in Calif. says
It is such a blessing to have our children marry great spouses. I’m so blessed that my son-laws are so good to my daughters and to the rest of the family. They have really made my life so much better.
Sue Fenwick says
Judy, that’s a sweet essay. I got choked up reading it. What a nice thing for Nicole to say! She is the perfect daughter-in-law for you. You are an inspiration to many, many people, and I am definitely one of them!
Sue
Susan says
You are so blessed, and it’s good to read about someone who knows how blessed they are. =)
ga447 says
It is so perfect, you will have the best memories and times every. I had a home in PA for 10 years and it was the best time ever. I never needed to go away again.
Terri Schanz says
I have two daughters-in-law, both with the same first name, and they are both the answer to all my prayers for my two oldest boys. The oldest one and his wife live in Florida and they have chosen not to have children. The middle one lives near to us and has given us our adorable granddaughter who is the light of our lives. I also prayed when my kids were growing up, and it seemed like they were fighting constantly, that someday they would be friends, and it really warms my heart to see how close they are now. They’ve always got each others’ backs, and that’s such a comfort to me.
I definitely married the right guy too. We met on a bus at Michigan State when we were both students there, 42 years ago. He’s my best friend and he can make me laugh like no-one in the world, which is good since I tend to take things too seriously.. We’ll be married 40 years in September. We’ve had a rough few years recently, and he is living with chronic debilitating pain, which has been difficult for him to deal with, and for me to watch and not be able to do anything to help. It can be hard living with someone who is always in pain, and there are lots of days where I really miss the guy he used to be. And then he’ll have a good day, and we make the most of it while we can. .
JanetB says
Second marriages are hard. Luckily, I had a good role model in my stepmother. She left us last week to go to be with the Lord. Bless her heart… she taught me so much about how to love another man’s children and how to love your husband unconditionally. I was so fortunate to have her in my live and my husband (although he doesn’t realize it) was fortunate that she was a great teacher.
Diana says
After 35 years of marriage (in June) and knowing Dearest Hubs for 40, well gosh I feel I have a good marriage, a good life, 3 beautiful grand darling angels, many foster grand great Danes and w beautiful Daughters who have tackled life with zest, zeal and an open mindedness about life and other people. I am truly blessed .. Oops almost forgot one wonderful Dog named Brie who is a kick ….
Great song by the way !
Diana says
Oppw W= two .. sorry keyboard error .. grrr…lol
Kay L Ford-Sollimo says
Yes, you are truly blessed. Thanks for sharing.
Linda Steller says
Oh WOW! She IS the perfect daughter-in-law for you! Not to mention that she just seems to be a great gal. I’m glad Chad found her.
Janice Stockwell says
You inspire me in more ways than one! God bless you and your family. I love reading your blog posts!
Valorie Spanogle says
I have 2 beautiful daughters in law and 2 wonderful sons in law. For one of the DIL birthday this year, we got her a sewing machine. Just a basic one. Went over the other evening to teach her how to use it and she was so delighted…I truly enjoyed watching her discover the joys of a sewing machine. I was like watching a child on Christmas morning. Love this post. I was able to spend a lovely day with my dear husband today and I feel truly blessed to have him in my life. Thank you for blessing so many lives.