We’ve heard that saying . . the glass is half empty . . all our lives. Vince borders on being a half empty kinda of guy and I’m usually a half full kind of girl. Sometimes I’ll say to Vince “Do you see that you’re being half empty?” and he’ll often respond that it’s easy for me to be half full because I never take off my rose colored glasses. Fine . . get yourself a pair! Life is too short to see the bad too often. Yes, we have to be realistic but I can hardly think of a situation that’s all bad. Yes, I can think of a few and I don’t want to bring them up but even those, if I think about them for a few minutes, I can mostly find something good that came of those really bad situations.
Please don’t think I’m living in la-la land and don’t have a clue what’s going on in the real world. I do . . to some degree but I don’t dwell on the bad. Sometimes, bad things are just going to happen . . nothing we can do to stop it. But, then . . we have a choice. We can let it keep us down or we can pull ourselves up, find something good . . even if it’s really small, put a smile on our face and brighten someone’s day. You may be crying inside but I find it makes me feel better to wear a smile instead of a frown.
Yesterday on Facebook, a friend, Carol, posted this: The worst part of a breakup is the knowing that you are not wanted, needed, or missed.
My response to her: Or, it could mean that there’s someone out there who wants you more, needs you more and will miss you more than the current person!
You know what? I’ve been there! I’ve felt not wanted, not needed and not missed. I’ve gone through breakups, being so in love and knowing Mr. Right is who I’d spend the rest of my life with, only to have my heart broken and find it wasn’t going to work and then to later realize I’m so glad it didn’t work. Remember Garth Brooks’ song that says “Thank God for unanswered prayers!”? I tried everything available to doctors back in the 80’s to get pregnant, only to get pregnant and then have a miscarriage. I thought I would die. I still have the calendar on which I wrote everything — the test was positive, first doctor’s appointment . . and then it didn’t work. But, had I had that baby, we would not have adopted Chad and you know how much I love that young man! Yes, I would have loved the baby I had just as much but it would not have been Chad.
Sometimes the only way we can keep on keeping on is to try to find something good in even the worst of circumstances. Probably every one of us has experienced illness, death, financial woes, family disappointments, and worse! It happens and we can’t control it but we can control to some degree how we react to it. And, we can be a “half full” kind of friend to help lift the spirits of of our friends in need.
What kind of person would you rather be around? Half full or half empty? What kind of person are you? (Don’t tell me . . just think about it please.)
I want to smile and find ways to be happy and help my friends to be happy. Can you do something this weekend to cheer someone up?