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Days 1 and 2 Alone

It’s kinda funny . . or kinda sad, depending on how you look at it.  When Vince is home and I’m cooking breakfast, lunch and dinner and never getting to watch what I want to watch on TV, I sometimes look forward to a few days alone.  But almost as soon as he leaves, I miss him and miss our routine and heck, I don’t even like to watch TV so I don’t care that I never get the remote.  But really. . how many times can you watch that Pawn Shop show and Pickers?  And he loves House Hunters and I get so frustrated with young couples on a budget who think they cannot buy a house unless the kitchen has granite countertops and stainless appliances!  And then he watches Holmes Inspections and now I’m so scared to buy a house that I might just live in a tent!

Sunday morning Vince moved off with everything he thought he needed and now he’s officially living in Texas. As much as I was looking forward to no cooking, I missed him and all day I was sad that he was gone.  I couldn’t find the batteries for the weed eaters.  He had cleaned in the garage and I had no idea where they were.  He called and told me where he had put them so that was solved.  Then we had a little toilet incident and Vince told me how to fix it but when I said “What does a wrench look like exactly?”, he decided he’d better call Jerry and have him come fix my toilet.

Yesterday the dandelions were taunting me.  Vince assured me the grass would not need to be cut til the end of the week but now, not only am I in control of the TV remote, I’m also in control of the key to the lawn mower!  When we lived in KY, I flipped (and ruined) the lawn mower so Vince has not let me cut the grass since then, even though the yard here is perfectly flat.  Even though the grass didn’t need to be cut, the dandelions did so I got the mower out and cut the grass.  The edging is done, the grass is cut!

Chad is leaving in a few minutes to go fishing and then he works tonight.  Today I get a haircut and unless something comes up that I’m not expecting, I should have the rest of the day to myself to sew or knit or sleep or read!

 

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  1. Funny how we manage to miss our menfolk when they are away, but sometimes I think it does us good to find out how things work for ourselves. However don’t tell hubby you can do any of HIS jobs, or you might get lumbered for life!!

  2. I like to mow. That becomes my job as soon as school is finished for the summer ( I am a teacher’s aide). Husband hates to mow, but I think that is because he farms and is a tractor a lot. I always enjoy a few days of quiet. I am looking forward to my son being gone at camp for a week. But I will be glad when he is back. I think it is good to have some time to ourselves and it is good to ‘have’ to do some things we don’t normally do, just to know that we CAN do them if we have to.

  3. I always found that I miss the deadline, you know, he will be here at so and so time so I have to stop at this time. There is no end of my day so to speak. I spend a lot of time alone and can’t say that it is fun at all. I like having someone to take care of. That is why I have grandcuties, I guess.

  4. I know just how you feel, Judy.

    Soon thing will be different and you’ll get used to that, too.

    Hugs

  6. I used to mow my yard all the time & enjoyed it. Then Steve came along & hit something so the new mower is so heavy that there is no way I can mow the lawn. . . .and it takes him forever to do it — it’s a good thing that we don’t have “flag men” in our neighborhood!!!

    Vince & Steve would get along extremely well. . . . . . or at least they both love the same shows.

    But I know exactly how you feel. . . . . can’t live with ’em, can’t live without ’em.

    Have fun whatever you decide to do today.

  8. I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes monday morning I am glad when the hubby goes off to work as I get more done but boy is the house quiet. I find myself talking to the cat a lot. Hope you find a house soon and yours sells so you can start off on your new adventure.

  9. As a military wife, DH was away from time to time. Fortunately, he was never deployed during his career, but did head off for 3 and 6 month courses from time to time. Life certainly was different when he was away. My kids were younger, and kept me busy, but there were times when I longed for adult conversation.
    When DH retired, he was worried that he’d miss his trips – time for him to spend alone during his “off hours”, but so far, after 10 years of retirement, this hasn’t been an issue.
    Just remember that this isn’t forever, and things will get back to a “new normal” sooner than you expect.

  10. I’m with you Judy. My hubby has started traveling more for his work in the last couple of years, and it has been so lonely when he is gone. On top of that he stays with his Mom on the weekends to give his sisters a break, which makes for a long weekend. Our youngest started college last fall, so although he still lives at home, he was gone most of the time. Guess I can’t seem to have it both ways, my time and their company :-S

  12. My father traveled all his business life and I swore my kids would never have to deal with no father. But, geez, Frank has traveled all his business life now. So I have always dealt with no men, and hated it.

    Now he travels much less and it is so nice to have him come home at night. Even if he is never in the same city during the day, he generally comes home at nights now.

    glen: who would have left him a long time ago but then who would put up with my dogs and my quilt stuff? LOL

  13. I long for alone time and then when it comes I can’t decide what to do first so I end up not doing much more than reading or messing on the computer! I could use a week of alone-ness!
    My youngest son has those same shows DVR’d.

  14. OH OH, now that you’ve done the lawn and weed whipped, you’ll get to do it all of the time.
    Why isn’t Chad doing the lawn instead of Fishing????

    • Because the grass can’t be cut at 7 a.m. We have to wait for the dew to dry and he usually has to get ready to go to work by 10:30 or 11:00 a.m. He either works from 11:30 or 12 to 8:30 or 9 p.m. He’s definitely doing his share of chores around here but this morning he had a friend in town who wanted to go fishing so he went before work.

    • And, I’ve always done the weed eating and edging because I’m kinda picky about how it gets done! 🙂

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